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I'm such a screw up
I am a 30 year old female, I've been working at my new job for about a month now, it's been very awkward because ppl would barely talk to me, and pretty much treat me like the new girl... Some ppl kinda just started talking to me, and last night I made the worst mistake of my life... I was in an accident last night, where i turned to quickly and side swiped a vehicle who happened to be one of my new co workers, I was tired after working a double and I turned to quickly and it just so happened to be a co worker... I can't eat or sleep im so depressed... I feel horrible, her car just had a little scratches on it and mines had the damage.., but I feel bad, I have to return to work... After doing that and I just want to quit, but I have to pay bills... I feel the lowest ever... What should I do?
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Helloo,
Firstly, calm down, your not a screw up. it was an accident and you didn't mean for it to happen. Your co worker is not hurt and neither are you which is the main thing.
When you next go to work, apologise to your co worker and offer to have all the bills for the damage on her car to be sent to you. If she gets mad and then apologise again and let her know just how sorry you are.
But until then, always stay positive and remember that it could've been much worse and that everything happens for a reason
I Hope this helps xxx
Lauren
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It's never a good thing to be in an accident. Even if nobody gets hurt or there is no serious damage, it can still shake you up physically and emotionally.
But in my opinion, you are being too hard on yourself. Car accidents happen all the time and most people who get hit will probably realize this. Maybe not at first but once the initial shock wears off, the person you hit will probably be willing to get past it and move on.
Stick with the job and don't just quit out of the blue. First off, it looks bad to future employers and second it is not the easiest thing to find a decent job nowadays.
Give it some time, if the situation becomes unbearable, then consider looking for a new job. But, if at all possible, you probably shouldn't leave the one you have unless you have something else lined up and ready.
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Hey we all make mistakes in life and sometimes it involves affecting someone we know such as people in the family, at work, at school. It doesnt have to even be a mistake in driving where there is an accident. YOu may be expecting some kind of bad reaction or payback from the person you hit but except for the few hotheads in life who react like that to EVERYTHING in their life all day long and 24/7, most people are mature about it and wont go off the wall on you. I know I was shook up for a while after the few times I created a fender bender when I was younger, a big worry was insurance rates going higher. I had one person tho trying to intimidate me due to my age, a teen and was giving me the 3rd degree and complaining that my license says I need corrective lenses and wasn't wearing glasses. I told him I wore contacts and if he wanted to look close enough, he'd see I had them on. Other than that, most people remain calm and get over the inconvenience quickly and are mature enough adults to not let it chance how they think about you as a person or in this case co-worker.
right now you have fears of how you will be received or thougt of or treated due to what happened. Our fears are usually always greater than the real life situation. We blow them out of proportion. So the best way to get past the embarrassment and your fears is to ADMIT to this co-worker how you feel. tell them what you told us. Basically it goes like this: Joanie, I am so embarassed over what happened that I can barely sleep because of it. I am so sorry that I hit your car. I know its no excuse but i was so tired after doing a double shift and someone was talking to me and distracted me on top of that from paying attention. I am so worried now about having possibly made a bad impression on you and others i work with when all I want most is to be accepted with friendliness as a coworker. I worry that this incident might break any chance I had of becoming friends at work. Again, I'm very sorry." Now she as an adult can either do the mature thing and forgive, and not let this accident chance how she sees you as a person or she can be a selfish idiot and try to chew you out. You will have done the adult thing to apologize but she will need to be mature enough to forgive too. There's a lesson to be learned by both parties. I have revealed how i feel when embarassed or worried. Humans are humans because we have emotions to deal with, no one escapes so we all have experienced the same things you are and know how it feels to be in your position. By late twenties and on older which I suspect its a good possibility applies to the coworkers of yours, a person knows how to control their emotions and not take things personally or jump to conclusions about another person. If this person is a teenager, they may due to their age not respond in an appropriate manner to you but you need to realize its an age thing, they are immature yet as far as the frontal lobe of the brain is concerned. that doesn't reach adult maturity for how we judge people and situations and our decision making until age 25 or so. And then a few people never grow up or have some slight mental issues and will never act correctly when interacting with people. I know its hard to do and face her and say something but if you want to kill those awful feelings you're dealing with now, this is the fastest most successful way I know how, by admitting how I feel and apologizing. Has worked every single time! mOST often the other person will say things immediately to reassure me, like, dont worry, I don't hate you, it's just scratches and can be covered up, or hey, I've done the same myself. I know how you feel but don't worry, it wont make me thing any differently about you. Most people will do that, its a natural instinct to want to try to put the other person at ease. I would also recommend your finding a book to read on gaining self confidence or how to deal with negative thinking because those 2 things are usually responsible for the emotional stresses we deal with in life. Blessings to you.
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