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I want to have sex with my friends mom she is divorced
I want to have sex with my friends mom she is divorced
14 male
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Adviceman gave all the advice I would have. I only wnat to add that my 2nd husband has told me about his past and what he shared may apply to you too.
Its usually more a reality that at 14 you are simply horny from hormones of puberty and guys find themselves attracted to certain women and love to fantasize and masturbate to images of that person if not dream of having sex with them.
Of course there is a law that makes it illegal until you turn eighteen. My husband knew as a teen of 16, 17, that he was attracted to females older than him rather than those his own age because those his age were too immature, drama queens, and not self confident as older women were. Once he turned 18, he still felt the same way and often was in relationships with women older than him who wanted the companionship and the sex but didn't want a husband. It worked realy well for him for years. In one case in his older twenties, he even dated a lady turning 50. And it worked out for both of them. However when it came down to who would be his partner to have a child with, he found a woman his age and married, later divorced and now he's with me. I am only a year older than him but he still finds that overall, women of my age and older still catch his eye long before young college age girls.
So if you do find that you only have an attraction for just this one older lady, yeah its normal. If you grow older and find all your buddies have girlfriends thier age and you arent dating anyone because what you really want is an older woman, well, thats normal too. As long as both are of legal age to have consentual sex then the age difference doesnt matter. So this was just a note to let you know if in time, the type of women you focus on and are attracted to doesnt change, its normal too.
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Every red blood male has been in the position you find yourself in. So relax your normal. It is the hormones of puberty running through you that are making you feel this way. Hence the word "Horny"
Just why you want to have sex with an older woman? Well there are numerous reasons for that some of which you may not even realize. The fact that she is divorced may mean to you that she might be available and has a need that you can fill.
Facts are at 14 she cannot legally have sex with you. You cannot legally consent to sex in almost any state in America and most western countries. If for the sake of discussion you two were to have sex and someone found out, say your mom. This lady could possibly go to prison for a long time. At the very least I'm sure you would ruin a friendship for your mother.
Then there is the fact that you are 14 and she is probably as old as you mother or close to her age. Fact is most women her age are not looking to have sex with someone as young as you are. Now I'm sure that if you asked rather than tried she would be nice and let you down easy. The question is do you really want to embarrass yourself and maybe have the fact that you wanted to have sex with her get back to your mother. I'm sure she would think it cute that you found her sexually attractive and most likely say something to your mom.
The fact that your 14 also means you are too young to be thinking about sex with her or anyone else even a girl of your age. This is a time of sexual exploration where masturbation and heavy petting play the biggest part in your sex life. Masturbation and heavy petting is how you learn to make love.
Like everything else in life learning to make love is like an algebra problem. There are certain steps one must go through, both boys and girls, to get to the answer. Skip any steps and you probably not get the wrong answer.
My advice: Use this lady as masturbatory fantasy rather than embarrass yourself. When your older, more knowledgeable and above the age of consent for where you live. If you still want to have sex with her and she is still available. Then consider asking her.
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This is a tricky situation since even if you both want to, and indeed agreed to, have sex you would be putting her in a position which could get her into a lot of legal problems. You'll have an age-of-consent law where you live, which can vary. It's 16 in the UK where I live for instance. And the plain fact is that if you are below the age you can't legally give your consent. It might well sound a stupid law to you. You might wonder how there can be be a law which can tell you what to do with your own body? It's there for a good reason though, to protect vulnerable young people from being exploited by older, or just manipulative people. If this occurs the young person has the whole weight of the law on their side, without any doubt or extenuating circumstances to be considered. So it would make the potential offender think very carefully before acting. So really it would be very unfair to flirt with her, encourage her or ask her about having sex. Because if she agrees and things get out of hand, you'll be OK and she will be in a truly horrible position which will cause her a lot of upset indeed. Even if you are prepared to say it was all your idea, and you asked her etc it won't help her. If you're worried about the whole idea that you find her attractive, don't be. She probably IS very attractive, and you might find her more desirable than girls in your own age group? And who knows, maybe in the future you might still feel drawn to each other and act on it? You'll just have an older girlfriend, as it were. But right now you're putting her in a good deal of risk regarding her record, character and reputation. Which isn't what a gentleman is supposed to do with a woman, is it??
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