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Should I go with my bestfriend and his new friends?
Ok, so my bestfriend from middleschool, we're both 16 and just graduated this year, is very close to me. He's like my brother, and we really do things like siblings. But of course, new schools means new friends, but we still get in touch. One day, he asked me if I'd like to watch the movies with him and his new schoolfriends, and I feel like i'm invading a forbidden space. Should I join them?
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I understand where you're coming from and why you may feel a little stand- offish about hanging out with him and his new friends. However, realize that he is trying to make an effort to hang out with you, and that really does mean something. I don't think he would ignore you or make you feel like the third wheel. Otherwise, he wouldn't have invited you in the first place. Maybe he feels like you and his new friends would hit it off great! Give it a chance and then if it doesn't work out, at least you know you made an effort. Hoped that I could help.
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It is actually very natural for a person who when they make new friends through work or school or whereever out in life, will want to eventually introduce those people to anyone else with whom they are really close and had a history with before meeting the new friends.
You can see this situation working out in many contexts. Like for one, having a new sweetheart. You eventually want to show him off to the family, having them meet each other. Every time my daughters have had a new boyfriend, they want me to meet him. Until I found my 2nd husband, any major boyfriend I had, I wanted the kids to meet.
Then when having met and married 2nd husband, he comes with a history, of family and friends, ex girlfriends and an ex wife. I have met the ex, I have some of his childhood friend and a couple ex girlfriends as facebook friends and I have talked to people in his family out of state, and to some of his friends on the phone, all so they could get to know me in a way. It made my husband happy for the people of his past whom he's still close to, who are important to him, to have them get to know of me in some capacity, whether, meet in person, on facebook or chat on phone. So don't worry, you won't be intruding. You will be visiting and becoming part of a growing group of new people he cares about. If some of his buddies feel awkward cus they don't have a female friend or girlfriend around, that is their issue to get over. He wants to show you off to his friends and probably feels they will also benefit from meeting you and gaining some level of friendship with you also.
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Nawww why would you feel that way?? you were in his life before they were, so you'll automatically be getting more respect because of that.
Sounds like he wants to keep you in his everyday life because hes trying to introduce you to new people he now has to see everyday and thats a good thing! hes making an active effort to keep you close and knowing the people he knows! i say go for it. I dont see why not.
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