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Is This Relationship Too Weird?
Is it weird to hang out with my teacher outside of school? We're very close and go out to dinner and movies. The relationship is platonic, so is it at all illegal? I'm supposed to be my teacher's student next year, but don't know how I'm supposed to be professional when she's told me secrets about herself and the other teachers at my school. I find it irksome that she has singled me out and has decided to spend time with me and favor me over all other students in my class. Is she at fault here?
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yeah just have your mom call the school and tell them SHE doesnt feel comfortable with the relationship and would like for you to be placed in a different class while your attending the school PERIOD. not just this semester but all.
make sure she mentions she nothing happens and she seems real nice but that your mom just "feels weird about it" and would like to make this a person request on your behalf.
they wont tell the teacher so you can still come up to her in school and say your sorry about your mom and remain civil. then out of school just play like your busy all the time and fade away. take up new hobbies so that your too busy for her anymore but that you really treasured the time you shared with her and really appreciated her sharing her time with you. ; )
(((this is what adults do when they want to split paths in a civil well mannered way without leaving feelings hurt even if the things they say arent necessarily totally true))) but of course it would be nice if they were so if you can try to be truthful, if not thats ok too.
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I think it may be a little inappropriate for your teacher to hang out with you outside of school. Not because you guys are doing anything illegal or wrong but because, it can be easy for people to become skeptical about it. You should listen to your mom and trust that she knows best. I think your teacher needs to keep her relationship with you professional and only associate with you in school settings. Sorry! Hoped that I could help.
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Yes. She is at fault here.
She shouldn't be treating you as a peer, while you are still also her student. That is utterly unfair to you.
It is very odd that an adult woman chooses her student, a sixteen year old, as a friend. Your mother is right. In fact, I think she is being very respectful and wise to tell you what she thinks, but not forbid you from seeing this person socially. If you were my daughter, I'd probably stop you from seeing this woman outside of school, and I'd complain to her boss. That is the level at which what she is doing is not okay.
It's not weird to hang out with a teacher a little bit. I had dinner with a few of my teachers (with groups of students). A teacher volunteered to take me to a play in the city when my mother couldn't, But they were still my teachers, and they didn't burden me with secrets or personal stories that I wasn't ready to handle or would have made my time at school uncomfortable. They were kind, but still professional.
What your teacher has done, is absolutely wrong. It's not illegal, but it could still likely get her in professional trouble. She is expected to have healthy boundaries with her students, and she hasn't done that with you. You deserve a teacher you can feel comfortable with, can respect and can have as stress-free learning environment as possible. She's taken that away from you.
If I were you'd I'd ask the school to not place me in her class the coming year. I'd also stop being her friend. Maybe, your mom will help you out here, and let you blame your mom's rules as the reason you can't go out with her anymore.
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