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How to give my best guy friend a bonar.
I want my best guy friend to believe that I truly like him he's 13 I'm 12, he told me to do so I must arouse him. I will not go further, but how do I give him a bonar? Please no comments about my age. Btw I'm a girl.
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Since when did giving a guy a boner mean that you truly like him?
Literally anything and any girl will be able to do that to him.
At his age, he's going through puberty so just talking to him, giving him a hug or a kiss can cause him to have a boner.
But this is a red flag. It has nothing to do with your age. I'm 20 and if a guy told me what your guy is telling you, I'd be done with him. At any age if a guy tells you to do something sexual to "prove" something, it is just sexual and he's using you.
Also, when you give a guy a boner, sex and other sexual activities are going to end up on his mind. So don't do this unless you're ready to actually go that far.
Because what's the point of giving him a boner and not doing anything about it?
Anyways, bottom line is that he's using you.
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DO NOT give him what he wants. He going to use you if he says that.
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I'm with Razhie on this, the guy is just playing you to get what he wants, anything having to do with sex, including talking you into putting your hands on his penis for a hand-job or your mouth on it for a blow job.
Hon, you've got to trust us both. I am not saying this because of your age but for the principle. At my mid fifties, I am still a very sexual person and I've had plenty experience around guys. So I can tell you, it starts at puberty with guys where they get excited by just looking at women, talking to them, being near them, or just daydreaming or dreams at night about them. In fact, young boys your age and into their teens will pretty much have an erection, (A boner) several times a day. There's a saying that young males tend to have boners at the drop of a hat. That response slows down some when men get a little older so they're not involuntarily getting boners at all odd times of day or night, sometimes at inconvenient times.
It takes no intervention from a female to give a guy a boner at all. There's absolutely nothing you have to do but be female, which you are. You will find as you grow older that no matter whether you have a boyfriend or husband or not, there will always be a select amount of males whose taste runs in your particular looks and they will get 'boners' because of you, just because they saw you across the room, or talked to you.
There are two guys of guys, the ones that like to show off the fact they have a bulge in the crotch of their pants because of a boner and those who are embarassed and don't want to scare off the girl or it's an inappropriate moment for it to be discovered. Start watching guys. You'll see as some interact with girls, they may hold something in front of them at crotch level or place something in their lap. My guess is the odds are half, considering the age group, that males, if young teens are hiding an erection.
Do not fall for this line from him. Tell him what you know now based on what you've just learned and that you will not do anything sexual with a guy until you're ready and want to. Start watching your guy friend and you'll see him with plenty of boners that you did nothing to create.
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A guy who only believes the things you tell him if you go out of your way to sexually arouse him is an asshole.
If he doesn't believe you when you tell him you like him, that's just kind of rude.
But if he makes his belief your job, and tries to blackmail you into doing sexual things for him to earn his belief, than he is a bully and an asshole. Stay away from any guy who makes any sort of sex a condition of him even listening to the words you say. That's not okay.
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Sorry but age is a factor in this answer. Your boyfriend should not need you to do anything to give him a boner at his age. Teenage boys get them without any thought several times an hour; it a hormonal thing which is part of puberty. At his age he should be going through puberty.
I remember when I was his age most of us boys walked around school with our books in front of our pants to hide the fact that we had boners. I'm fairly certain the same is still true with boys at your school.
Walking hand in hand in the hallways with my girlfriend was enough to cause an erection (proper name for a boner), once again more hormonal than a sexual thing. You should not have to do anything. Nor at your age should you be doing anything more than simply kissing and hugging him to give him an erection.
If simple kissing and hugging is not doing it then he needs to have a talk with his dad and a check up by his doctor to see why he is not going through puberty. It would be rare but not unusual for a boy his age not to be in puberty. He would be a late bloomer just as a girl who doesn't get her period until she is 15 or 16 is considered a late bloomer.
At your age you should be doing no more than holding hands, hugging and kissing. Other things you should be aware of about boys. If a boy is asking you to do as your boyfriend is; this is called sexual harassment for one thing. HE should not be asking you to do these things. It also means like all teenage boys he is confusing love and lust. Next he will be asking to feel your breasts or to see them. If you say no he may say if you love me you will let me. Here again this is more lustful than love. It goes on from there until he is asking you to haves sex with him to prove your love for him. Sex is not how you prove your love for someone. Sex is the outgrowth of love.
Just be careful you boyfriend may be leading you down a road you should not be going.
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