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She is a ATHEIST ! Should I give up my religion for her?
Hey , um i really fell in love with this girl , and we really wanna get married and have our own life.But there is one problem though , i discovered that she is a atheist :( , and according to my religion ,Islam , Guys cannot marry non Muslims unless they convert , or at least the kids would be Muslims.Islam is not strict or anything but its just a major law that must be followed.i don't know I'm thinking about giving up my religion for her but i would be in deeeeep shit , ill lose my relationship with my mother , sister and friends:(. I tried to make her convert but she just doesnt believe in the existence of god , should i try harder or what.what can i do , i really love her.should i give up my religion ?:(
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I find it beautiful that you are willing to change what you are for her, but if you want it to work none of you should have to do that.
Talk to your family and your girl, there must be a way to marry her. Think about this: how will your future children be taught? What values will you teach them? Islam ones? Ask your God for help; he might have the right solution.
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"I tried to make her convert".. you attempted to coerce someone you supposedly love into a belief system that she rejects because it would suite you and your controlling family. That is disgusting and disgraceful, pure and simple. Before you argue your family are not controlling by the way - if they won't accept you being with and marrying someone you love with out this person conforming to their religion then they are controlling. Very much so.
"Islam is not strict or anything".. no not at all, you just have to stick like glue to its every rule and regulation and anyone in your life (partner, children etc.) must be indoctrinated and certainly never allowed to think for themselves.
If you love her you will stop this nonsense of trying to pressure her into following yours and your families religion. How on earth do you think an Atheist could just suddenly start believing in this utter nonsense anyway??!
My advice is get a grip and grow a pair of balls. Choose the woman you love and get over this religious nonsense.
Ashok
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No do not give up your religion. If your family is agreeable to you marrying outside your religion then go ahead and marry this girls. My wife and I are of two different faiths and we have been married for 43 years. Neither of us are deeply religious though we did promise both our parents that our children would know both of our religions. When they came of age they could then chose which religion they wished to follow. Our parents were very happy with thiis idea and we did make sure that the children had a good insite into both religions by celebrating both religions with their grandparents when we were with them.
If her parents are not athiest, which is very possible as I'm sure your parents may be shall we say less then pleased with an athiest in the family. The solution we chose should satisfy everyone including your girlfriend.
Talk to your Imam (I hope I spelled that right) and see if he is ageeable to my solution. It is not a refusale to raise the children Muslim, it is an agreement to educate them in the religion but to give them the right of choice when the come of age, something they would have as right anyway if they are American citizens.
The Muslim religion religion is unfortunatley portraid in the news as a less than peacefull religion. Those of us who know beter know it to be a religion of peace. If my suggestion keeps peace in the families and allows for a hapy life for you and your future wife I cannot see a reson your spiritual leader will refuse you.
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Your stuck between a rock and a hard place you really need to think if you giving up your religion for her and loosing your relationship with your mother sister friends is really worth it i know you really love her but something's aren't worth loosing you may not be able to get them back if you make that decision it's your choice and yours only if you want to give up your religion for her nobody can make the choice for you both you and her need to come to some type of agreement to smooth out the situation make it better you can't try to convert her you can't force her to do anything she doesn't want to her being atheist is her belief what she believes in she probably feels strongly about it no you shouldn't try harder if you do that could annoy her and you'll risk scaring her off and that's the last thing you need you don't want to create more problems for yourself
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If she does not believe in your religion then there is no way you can change her mind about it. And even if you did, it would not make you both happy. Just like she can't convince you there is no God, you likely won't be able to convince her there is one.
You have to ask yourself, how important your religion is to you. And also if being with this girl is worth ruining relationships within your family.
Maybe you should talk to your family about this and see if there is another solution to this problem.
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