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I hope some of you will read this.
The thing is, I've been in a long distance relationship with my ex for 3 and a half years, and he broke up with me 2 months ago.
We have been broken up before for the obvious reason, the distance, but have gotten back together again cause we couldn't let go.
but when it happened 2 months ago, we made a promise that we would still be friends and have contact and be there for each other, just not that often. And this week he texted me for the first time since, saying that he had felt really bad lately due to some trouble that is going on in his life and asked me if we could talk one day, only if I wanted to of course.
And even though I still need more time to forget about our past and because that I miss him, I accepted. Since I know he would do the same for me.
We talked this night, and it was allright. He explained to me what was going on in his life that bothered him a lot. Family, work, ect. And of course I listened to him and gave feedback.
Other than that, I asked him how his birthday was in October where he turned 24, how I was doing, and about my next birthday in april where I'll turn 20. He even said that he would definitely like to see me on my birthday. I said he didn't have to, but he insisted. That made me happy regardless.
But the thing is, there were many times in the conversation where as soon as I was about to talk about something that had to do with us (which I wasn't even trying to do), he didn't want to talk about it and tried to change the subject. I have 3 examples from the top of my head:
1) When I told him how weird I felt with him writing to me, he immediately joked with it (not in a mean way) by asking if I thought it was because he wanted us back together? and I firmly said no, because it was still kind of a rude thing to say and because he didn't let me finish. Of course afterwards he said he was joking and continued to listen. I explained to him it was because I still needed more time to myself to forget, as he has agreed on when we texted, and because I kind of felt like he didn't deserve it for what happened. But that of course I would still be there for him, as he would to me. But now I'm sitting here thinking if he really thought that about me, or if it really only was a joke?.. Because I really felt looked down at from hearing that from him.
the 2nd thing is) When I talked about that, and after I had explained how I felt when reading it, he said that we shouln't talk about that and wanted to change the subject.
the 3rd thing) is after our "Allright"- conversation, and we were in the middle of saying goodbye, I said "well, see you next time I guess" and he responded with something like "Well, maybe, I don't know when but yeah", but then again told me that he wanted to see me on my birthday. After that we hung up.
It probably doesn't sound like all that much, but I guess you had to be there.
But I just really felt like from the way he was talking from these examples, he tried to show that he didn't care at all, and even tried to make me look desperate in a way.
He is a really good guy so it's not his style, and I think that's why all that stuff got to me..I don't know if it's because he didn't want to look stupid since he was the one who wanted me to talk to him about his problems or if it's cause he's "hiding" his emotions or if he simply doens't care at all.
I hope my question makes sence and I'm really grateful for you reading this.
I hope I can get some helpful advice from you. (link)
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In the first place you shouldn´t be reproducing all over again what he said or what he meant because it´s useless. As hard as it may sound stop thinking about it; sometimes by overthinking we come up with completely wrong conclusions.
Of course he cares about you! And it´s just this matter that makes him find a way to rest importance to the situation. Because he might still love you and he doesn´t know how to react.
It´s not easy, but you must now think what YOU want. If he has spoken to you there must be a reason. It´s obvious that he misses you...
Maybe you should start talking to him some time and see his reaction. Maybe you should meet him on his birthday and see what happens... In my opinion, this story is far from over.
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Please help. I love this girl, and I know "love" is used in many ways, but I just feel it, that once in a life time love. I truly love her! She said she liked me but she needed time to decide. Over the past few months, we've gone on a few I guess you could say dates, but still no answer. Then tonight, after I left her house she left her Instagram on my iPod. I didn't know at the time, so when I opened it up I realized it was her account. She sent a direct to a guy saying " you are my one and only forever" and calls him bae, vise versa. Please help! I love her so much!!! Please... (link)
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To be honest, I found it really weird that she didn´t answer right away; if you love someone you just KNOW.
So maybe the girl likes you, but she is playing a little bit. Maybe she doesn´t know what she wants yet.
I think you must give her a little space for her to clear her mind. Maybe you should leave some time for her to realize what/ who she really needs.
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Hey , um i really fell in love with this girl , and we really wanna get married and have our own life.But there is one problem though , i discovered that she is a atheist :( , and according to my religion ,Islam , Guys cannot marry non Muslims unless they convert , or at least the kids would be Muslims.Islam is not strict or anything but its just a major law that must be followed.i don't know I'm thinking about giving up my religion for her but i would be in deeeeep shit , ill lose my relationship with my mother , sister and friends:(. I tried to make her convert but she just doesnt believe in the existence of god , should i try harder or what.what can i do , i really love her.should i give up my religion ?:( (link)
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I find it beautiful that you are willing to change what you are for her, but if you want it to work none of you should have to do that.
Talk to your family and your girl, there must be a way to marry her. Think about this: how will your future children be taught? What values will you teach them? Islam ones? Ask your God for help; he might have the right solution.
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Hi, so currently I am pretty sure I gained weight. Shorts that were huge on me now fit me perfectly and I feel like some of my pants are tight for me now. Does anybody know how I could possibly loose weight fast, like in 2 weeks or so? (link)
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Well, two weeks is a really short period of time and this might not be healthy
An easy way to loose weight is drinking a lot of water (not alcohol or any kind of soft drinks)and
reducing considerably the size of your meals (IMPORTANT: you must eat a little bit of everything!).
I assure you that following these two simple instructions you´ll loose weight without harming your body.
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Hi i am a girl # 14 i get really bad period cramps and can not finde any thing that works help !!! ):
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Hi there
I think you should start taking painkillers and if the pain remains you might have to tell someone...
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