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What's the name for this sexuality?
Okay so i figured out my sexuality but i dont think there’s a name for it
For girls, same as always, sexually and romantically attracted always
But with guys, never sexually attracted, but only romantically attracted if i share a close bond with them (like demiromantic but only with guys)
Does anybody know what this could possibly be?
(14f btw)
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Given your age I would tell you what I have told others that have written as you have.
At your age it is way too early to label yourself sexually. You are in the early stages of puberty and the hormones of puberty are playing havoc with you. The thought of sexual intercourse with a guy is still a fairly gross thought for many girls your age. Yet sex with a girl is not gross. This is fine as it is all part of experimenting to find your true sexual self. Boys to experiment within their own sex at this age to find out what they like and don't like. Just as you are not a lesbian they are not gay and neither of you are near being bisexual. You are safely experimenting.
If you were as Lesbian you would have known this long before you hit puberty for you would have been born this way. Lesbians just as gay guys are born this way they are not made. Scientists are not so sure as to a person being bisexual. That may just be an acquired preference.
My advice is to relax, enjoy learning about your sexuality. You are definitely not a lesbian and some day soon when you are more comfortable around boys you will have sexual feelings. Romantic feelings generally come before sexual feeling so you could be on your way. There is no need to stick a label on your sexuality until you are out of High school or even out of college. Your teenage years are for the enjoyment of learning and that includes learning who you are sexually. Just don't go so far as you could get pregnant.
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Interesting start. I would have to ask you some stuff before I even dared suggest anything. Firstly do you find the thought of sexual relations with guys a bit scary and intimidating? Or does the thought of being intimate with a guy repel you (in essence, do you feel really horrified at even the idea of a guy being that intimate with you)? How does this statement strike you? "I want to express and enjoy my sexuality and girls seem a much safer option than guys right now." Agree or disagree, strongly or slightly?? By 'never sexually attracted' to guys are we talking about guys your own age (potential boyfriends) or all guys? Do the guys you bond with appeal to you more or less if they appear to show interest in YOU 'as a woman' (as we might say)? Do hints, comments or signs of a clearly sexual attraction from them towards you tend to draw you closer to them and reinforce the bond, or do/would the same comments weaken the bond and make you a little less relaxed around them and less fond of them? Would an overtly sexual 'come on' destroy the bond completely and make you 'run a mile' as they say? Or would you find it flattering? (NOT suggesting you would jump on top of him on the spot, but would you feel flattered and pleased that he had tried it!) You might try answering these questions to yourself, if you do not fancy the idea of answering them to anyone else. It might help. I am sure you can see where we might be going with this line. I can identify and bond with a guy (I am male) and enjoy his company. But any undertones (let alone clear and explicit signals!) of him having any sort of sexual interest in me would be a complete game-changer and I would be horrified. Which defines MY sexual orientation and draws the line between engagement and physical attratction. Might be getting a bit deep. Are you with me? In short, you first need to identify YOUR line before trying to define your own orientation. Or more accurately, letting it define itself. Have a think, or a chat if you like? X
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First of all, you're not going to be able to express all that in just one word.
If you're both sexually and romantically attracted to girls, it would make sense for you to say you're a lesbian.
It's not contradictory to say that you're <i>also</i> demiheteroromantic, or maybe biromantic.
Keep in mind that outside of LGBTQ+ communities (or even within), a lot of people don't know about romantic orientations, so these words might not even help you if you're trying to tell someone else how you identify.
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I have heard of this description from females before of their sexuality.
I have also met older adult females who described themselves as bi sexual and found variations under that label.
Normally we'd think a female would have to like sex equally from women and men to be considered bi sexual. The majority of these women had a husband but he was the only male she was sexual with but had multiple female sex partners. Many said the husband provided the emotional/romantic needs she had and the sex was included, but she had no attraction to other men. However her main source of sexual satisfaction was from females.
So you can call it a variation of bi sexual, wanting only romance from guys which is the emotional support but in time may be open to full relationship with one male but have multiple female sex partners. A label is not really needed. Just explain to others if needed as you explained here. But romance evokes feelings and feelings c ome from our emotions so its emotional needs you go to males for.
Good lluck deare.
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