Okay, I am a 15 year old girl, I am somewhere around 5ft 6" tall and I weigh 120-130 pounds.
When I was in my mothers womb, I was very active, and ended up making a huge knot in my umbilical cord and wasn't getting enough nourishment.
And when I was born(by C-section) the umbilical cord was rapped around my neck and I was choking myself on it and almost died.
Because of this(My mom also told me that I have a low fat cell count), I have always been skinny. When I was younger, people would come up to my Mother asking if I ate enough. I was wearing clothes for years before I out grew them. My mom would let me eat milk shakes for breakfast everyday to try and get me to gain weight. (I also had bad stomach aches a few times a day from the ages of around 8 or 9 until a few years ago, we still don't know what caused them.)
But other than this, I was like any other normal child. I was extremely active(I mean, I would run laps for fun active, now I'm lazy...), liked to play outside, and though I was a picky eater, I ate normally too.
As I got older I remained thin, but in middle school I started eating a lot more(I mean, A LOT of food. I'd eat more than my older sister and her friend combined)and gained some weight, but I am still thin.
Recently(I will be a Junior after summer), I got a spacer in my mouth so I take longer to eat, and I also haven't been able to eat as much. But I do eat more than enough to be healthy(three meals a day and snacks in between, most high calorie junk food). I'll occasionally skip meals, but unintentionally because I'm not home much and I forget because I snack a lot.
I care little to nothing about my weight and do not think I'm fat, I don't look at calories and even eat junk food most of the time. As stated above.
But for the last few weeks, my friend who's been with me almost constantly has been calling me anorexic. And not just as a joke, or something like that. She actually thinks I am. She tells me almost everyday. It's really starting to bug me.
I've explained to her I'm not, but she says that I don't eat enough and I'm too thin. When I'm actually bigger than I used to be. I know I eat enough(most days at least) and I love food...
I don't know, basically what I'm asking is, how can I get my friend to stop thinking I'm anorexic? And can having a low fat cell count be the cause of me being so skinny? And any other comments you can give would be great.
Due to your medical history that you have provided us, you have a justifiable reason as to you are and always have been so thin. It's not unusual for one to have a raging metabolism that is difficult to handle. It takes me forever to gain weight. :p Your mom obviously took care of you well, so no faults there...
Just by reading through your question, you don't seem to have ever exhibited any sort of disordered eating. Since you are in high school, I am sure that you are aware that chicks and guys are pretty self conscious. Girls can be the worst when it comes to comparing. >.> So your friend can either be genuinely concerned or jealous. Which is ok. Totally normal.
But I get it; it hurts to be called 'anorexic'. I was called that and although I had the diagnosis, it hurt. If you feel comfortable, you can explain your medical history to her, and how it is relevant to your weight struggles. Or you can say: "Hey, I appreciate your concern but I would really appreciate it more if you stop labeling me as 'anorexic'. Even if I was diagnosed, I still don't appreciate that label." And hopefully she'll stop.
Now for some education! Eating disorders are very difficult topics to understand but in case you are wondering, here are some traits I acquired when I was sick:. I was overly self conscious about food and my weight
. Although I was at a healthy weight, I had this distorted image that I was fat
. Restricting and exercising became an addiction
. I thrived on losing weight
. While everyone was concerned for me, I was in denial and did not recognize whatsoever that I was sick
. Whenever I did not feel control over my life, I felt that losing weight and food itself was the only thing I had control over
And much more. Given your height and weight, you seem to be in a good place. You are still growing, so it will still be hard to keep up with your metabolism.
lightoftruth answered Monday July 7 2014, 3:55 pm: That would be annoying.
You seem to be at a fine weight range and just naturally skinny and have a fast metabolism.
As long as you've seen a doctor and they're not concerned about your weight, then you're fine.
I think you should sit down with her and explain to her that you aren't anorexic and her saying all this is actually becoming hurtful.
You can show her sites online that show your height and weight range, because I'm guessing you're also a small framed girl.
And tell her that you've seen a doctor and you're healthy and ask her to stop because you don't like it. [ lightoftruth's advice column | Ask lightoftruth A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Monday July 7 2014, 4:36 am: To start with we are not doctors so anything we say is not definitive just well-intentioned advice.
You are 15 5'6 and weigh between 120 & 130 pounds. According to the height and weight chart I use this puts you well within the weight parameters for a small framed girl and at the very low end of the scale for a medium framed girl. These are the figures that count, the ones your doctor use to determine if you are within your proper weight. There are some other methods but a height and weight scale to frame size is the most popular.
Frankly there are only two people you need to be concerned about when it comes to your weight; your doctor and your parents. If your doctor is not concerned about your weight then anything anyone else says is either jealousy or just plain meanness. Once you have told them your doctor is satisfied with your weight and you are healthy if they continue to say something about your weight go with meanness.
If your parents are concerned about your weight or you’re eating habits they will first consult your doctor. As long as the doctor is satisfied with your weight the only thing I can see is maybe mom being a little upset with your eating habits; such as missing meals.
I don't know your frame size so I am going to suggest you try to stay at the higher side of the weight range you gave; as it is better to be 10 pounds overweight then 10 pounds underweight. You should be able to do this by eating 3 good meals a day and whatever between meal snacks you have been eating.
If you can do this and maintain the higher weight; Pay no attention to what the kids may say to you. IF they become annoying take a page out of an old TV show called "Welcome Back Kotter." Tell them "Up your nose with a rubber hose." If they don't know the show they won't know the reference and they will not understand and this will drive them nuts. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
Dragonflymagic answered Sunday July 6 2014, 8:10 pm: Some people are naturally thin no matter how much they eat due to having a high metabolism. But if you have never had a physical checkup for overall health to see if there may be something you're not aware of that could help, it's worth doing so.
I just checked on line for the scale of what is natural for weights for a female 5'6.
On the low end, 117 and all the way up to as much as 143 because besides metabolism, how fine or heavy the bone structure is makes a difference in the weight too.
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