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Parents don't care
I feel like my parents dont care about me any more ;(
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I had that feeling once. My siblings got into an argument with our mom and tried to turn me against her. They said my mom loved our brother more because he is her first born. I was young and believed them. I focused on the memories of how well my mom treated my brother and the times when she neglected me. I allowed myself to be surrounded by negativity. I forgot the good times when she showed how much she loves me.
My mom was going through a lot of stress and kept it to herself. It made her depressed and her behavior was cold towards me. I regret ever thinking badly of her now that I look back at it. My mom loves all of us. She didn’t tell me what she was going through because she thought I was too young and it would upset me too.
I don’t know if your parents love your or not. But I think you should relax for a moment and watch your parents closely. Try to find out what is going on.
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I don't know your age but when I was in grade school and middle school I was always wrong when I had feelings that something was exactly what I expected. In high school, I finally began to learn but still got it wrong quite often.
It is easy to have these real feelings that your parents don't care any priority ore. Whether there is any reality to it, you won't know unless you investigate and look into it by bringing up the subject with you.
You did not supply us enough info to really give you helpful advice but what giddygeezer said is true of parents. So the best thing is to go approach them and talk to them.
Parents are not mind readers so they cannot tell when something is bothering you, or something they say or do is hurting you, makes you feel left out, not important or whatever. I always did that, assumed the parents would just know somehow. It wasn't until I became a parent that I realized through experiences that I could not see any physical signs or hints or other warning signs that my kids were struggling with feelings like this or struggling with anything at all. I had one daughter who showed no signs of being depressed and she only told me when she was about 25 yrs old. I think its normal that kids assume the parents have some superhero ability to know exactly whats going through a kids mind, but we don't. So go talk to mom and dad dear, following giddys guideline for doing so.
Good luck.
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I agree with adviceman49, you didn't give us enough info to really understand what might be happening. From what you are saying it seems you feel they cared about you once but now they don't, right? Let me tell you a little something about parents that I know to be true, if they ever loved you then they still love you. Parents NEVER stop loving their children! Sometimes parents get so caught up in all the hassles and worries of adult life that they forget to reassure their kids of the love they feel for them. Why don't you try some good old reverse psychology. Go up to mom or dad, give them a big hug and say "I love you. I know you've had a lot going on lately but I miss you". If you do this and your parents still act like they don't care then you need to go to them and tell them how you feel. Stay calm, don't yell or accuse them of anything, just tell them how much their actions are hurting you and ask if there is anything you can do to make things better. Maybe some family counseling would help if they are willing. Parents can be pretty lame sometimes when they get all wrapped up in their own problems, but if you show them some affection and understanding I think they will come around!
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