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Help with 7th grade math
I'm in 7th grade and I have a D in math. I try really hard, and turn all my homework in on time. I don't normally study, but even when I do I still get less than 50% right on my test. My mom puts a lot of pressure on me for failing. Don't tell me to talk to her about it, because I won't. Also don't give me crap saying "we'll quit being stupid then" or "get a tutor" and "just talk to her about it brat" because I already have cutting issues. But I need help
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It's normal for a mom to put pressure on you when you have a D in math.
These are going to be my suggestions..
-Study. You said you normally don't study so change your habits.
-Watch youtube videos on the problems you don't understand. I was never good at math and my dad had me do this.
-Talk to your teacher when you're not understanding a problem.
-Take notes and read.
-Get a tutor. Seriously, I know you said you don't want one, which I really don't understand if you actually want help but tutors can help and they can spend more time with you than a teacher can.
As for the cutting, I'm sure you're already stressed enough about that, but you do need professional help. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who cut. You need to talk to your mom about that or talk to a teacher or counselor and ask them for help. Once you start talking to a counselor they'll help you find ways to deal with your problems rather than cutting.
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I know you don't want a tutor, but some sort of tutoring is probably advisable at this point. Tutoring doesn't have to cost money; sometimes all it takes is asking a friend or a teacher.
If you have good school habits (and it sounds like you do), chances are that your teacher would be more than happy to help you. Teachers won't go the extra mile for someone who blows off homework, doesn't study and sleeps through class, but they will for someone who turns in all homework on time and shows some real effort.
At the very least, talking to your teacher can help point you in the right direction. They should know about resources that can help you to improve your math skills.
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You appear to be very stressed out over this and I will assume for the moment this is behind the cutting issue or at least partly behind them.
Being in 7th grade this would make you about 11 or 12 years old, correct. I will also assume you mom doesn't know of your cutting, correct.
At the moment your cutting issue bothers me more than your failing math does as the cutting issue needs to be resolved before we can work on the math problem. People cut because they are so stressed they need to feel something. This stress also causes depression. Depression also cause us to lose perspective which in part is also why you may be having trouble with math. Losing or not having a proper perspective could mean you are not processing the problems or the methods properly. How do I know this. I've been there with depression and I'm old enough to be your grandfather as well.
The depression you are suffering is something that my parents called a phase that most children went through and still go through only today doctors have a name for it. It is called teenage depression. It is a clinical depression caused by puberty and a lack of 1 or two hormones that help control stress and moods. These hormones are easily balanced with medication.
Then in working with a psychologist in what is called talk therapy you work to find out just what is the major stressor that is causing the depression and the need for cutting. Once this is found the psychologist will work with you to help you deal with it in a better way. Best of all anything you say to the psychologist is totally confidential. No one including mom will ever know what is said in therapy. The psychologist will only recommend things mom can do to help you.
This is the help I believe you need to overcome the cutting problem and when you are able to be more relaxed and see thing properly your math skills will get better as well.
I understand you may not be able to go to mom and ask for the help you need. Is there a trusted teacher, school principal or other adult you are comfortable talking to such as a Aunt, Uncle or Grandparent. If so please speak with then, tell them what is going on with you and the cutting. That you need help and ask them to talk to mom.
The best people to talk to is a trusted teacher or school principal. They can once you ask for help directly intercede on your behalf. In fact once you ask for their help they are required by law to help you so this is the fastest way for help to be had.
OF all the things you could do to feel something or relieve stress you have chosen the worst one. Cut in the wrong place or too deep and you can bleed out before help can arrive. I know this for in my career as a firefighter I have seen this. Please ask someone for help today.
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You could try to watch videos on youtube trying to explain your lesson? Well, if that still doesn't work, borrow books from the school library or the public library and show your mother that you know how to study (and study while doing this act) so she will possibly stop pressuring you about your studies. This way, you can have time to reflect and try to get high grades. when I was younger I got a C+ and my mom was like "Doesn't mean it has a plus, it's good enough to show me." But then I started studying and showed her I could be mature and study and get high grades she thought I was not that bad. My grades improved from C+ to B+ and somtimes A- :/ but anyways, good luck!
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