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How to i become friends with this girl?
Hi , I'm Aisling , I'm 14 and I'm in 3rd year at secondary school.
The reason I asked this question is because I want to become friends with this girl called Niamh . She is in my class and she hangs round with a group of girls - not being stereo typical- but if I had to describe them , I would call them popular girls! I like Niamh very much and I really want to be her friend , but unfortunately I'm very scared to talk to her - especially when she is with her friends- I feel awkward. Everyday I say hello to her , and I like most of her pictures on Instagram and I retweeted one of her tweets and I would send her a snapchat but she never replies - even if it does say she opened it- . I pray every night that I will be her friend but I don't know how to , I'm just too scared , can you help me ?
Sorry about the long post ! And please dont say mean things .
Thanks for taking the time to do this and if it works I'm eternally grateful .
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Hello Aisling.:)(cool name)
If you really want to be friends with this girl JUST SAY HI :) I know that it sounds scary but it's actually pretty easy,and maybe she does not reply to your snapchats because she does not recognize or know you that well.(All the more reason to get to know her!) And just remember, if she rejects you or acts arrogant in any way, then that just reflects on the type of person that she is. You seem like a nice girl, if she turns out to be a jerk then screw her who wants to hang out with jerks anyways ;) Also, never judge a book by it's cover. Despite who she hangs out with, she could turn out to be pretty nice! Hope things work out!
XOXOXOXO
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You make friends with her the same way you'd make friends with anyone else.
The only way it won't work is if she is just simply not interested in becoming your friend.
When you have the chance to talk to her, take it. It's good that you say hi to her. Slowly start making small conversation with her. Eventually you'll be able to talk to her more. As long as she seems like she wants to talk and is putting some effort in, then you're fine.
If she doesn't, then that's when you know that she's not interested in becoming your friend.
Put your feelings aside when you talk to her, talk to her like you'd talk to any other person.
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Popular girls or those who hang out in those groups are not going to be attracted to someone who is shy and quiet. They are attracted to someone who is as equally flashy and popular and exciting as they believe themselves to be.
For the most part, it's all show, just like the actors and actresses you see on TV in Hollywood. In real life they dont look anything like what you see on TV. In fact they look very ordinary. You may be attracted to something in that girl that is not real. That may not be who she is underneath that cover of popularity. There is no easy answer to your situation. The best thing you can do for yourself is to learn self confidence because it will help you in life in more than just relationships, but jobs and other things as well.
There is one hope. The seeming pretty popular girls are sometimes never asked out by anyone because all the guys assume they are not good enough for her...even the popular guys. So no one asks the prettiest girl out. It doesnt hurt to ignore your fears and what ifs and just do it, walk up to her and ask her if she'd like to spend some time with you. If she says no, then obviously she's not as attracted to you as your are to her. If she says yes, then you've just gotten what you wanted! i would not ask her while she is with her friends. Find a time that you can ask her when shes alone without friends around she feels she needs to impress to keep up her image. Then ask her.
Since you've tried to chat with her on line but she has seen and not responded, even when no friends are around, my guess is she is not interested. But hey, this is all part of the learning process when being a teen and being attracted to someone of the opposite sex and learning how to befriend them and understand them.
Personally, I think its quite rude to not answer at least once and let you know that she's not interested if thats the case.
Think about what it is that you like about her, looks, her smile, body type, her laugh, sound of her voice, and look for that in another girl who has better manners, who has something in common with you and can appreciate having a nice guy for a friend.
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