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What does it mean when your ex makes fun of you infront of his friends
So bascially, it's been a while since this guy and I broke up. In fact, I've been busy and happy- which means I haven't been thinking about him much. But just yesterday, one one of my very close friend and common EX friend ( to him) told me that just a few weeks ago, He had been talking about me to her as well as to another common friend ( a guy). The thing is, the break up had been pretty ugly.After I found out a few things he'd done, I did not contact him at all. I avoided him. When he tried talking to me, I didn't respond. I slapped him. I know all of this seems gruesome but while we were dating he would go to other girls and say a bunch of stuff to them AND bitch about me. He asked my best friend to come on his side by saying that he likes her. He asked me to call him and when I did, he messaged others by saying I was calling him and being a pain. Just a background. But anyway mainly, he said this about me. "She's so thin, she's like a pile of bones." "I don't like the way she's always with her best friend." "I don't like the way she sticks to this guy" - The truth, is that guy and I are best friends. Anyway, he also said , "She has such a fake accent" "I don't want to talk to her" Other things about me etc. When my friend asked him if he really hated me that much, he said, "I could never hate her."
I want to know the reasons behind these words. Honestly, I don't feel bad when I heard them. I just felt as if he was trying to prove a point which does not exist. Could you help me figure out what it means? I'm kinda curious.
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I've actually seen a lot of people do this stuff. It's really dumb and immature of him to do that though. When I was a sophomore in high school, I did the same thing. I would trash my ex even when I didn't mean half I of it. I was really immature about it. I didn't have feelings for him or even wanted to get back together. I just was frustrated with him and I was a dumb, young teenager.
So really, there's no need to get caught up in stuff like that. It's good that you're not taking that stuff to heart. Maybe he's just trying a little too hard to move on. People put other people down to make themselves feel better.
I don't know how old you are but this is all drama so don't think too into it.
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The fact that you feel a need to know what anything regarding him means, well...it shows that you are still hooked into that negative drama.
People who do not act out of love for themselves or others do so for several reasons, almost all which can be traced back to a lack of real true love in their life...the kind of love like God has.The lack is either due to choice, choosing a dark way to live,or out of ignorance, they were raised in loveless surroundings so they don't know any other way to act, they have not been introduced to a better way.For some its immaturity and as they grow older and wiser, they will change for the better.
And then theres the people who have mental illness, their negative way of acting comes from something being out of balance in their brains, but not so bad that it can be detected by a mental health specialist. Their medical condition just means they have to work harder at being nice, just like a handicapped person has to work harder to do the normal things we take for granted like brushing our own hair or teeth, or walking ,etc...
Your lesson to learn is to love yourself enough to not expose yourself to such terrible treatment from another human being by choice, by being in relationship with them. There will be the occasional snotty co-worker, student, teacher, store clerk, etc...that you can't avoid coming into contact with but you can learn to let go of the negative feelings it brings up in you.
You might benefit from a procedure called EFT tapping,( Emotional Freedom Technique) If interested check out the links, I will post a couple that might apply but you can find what works for you dear. The tapping part is you tapping on the meridian points of your body, same used in Chinese medicine for acupuncture and acupressure. These help the subconscious mind to focus on really hearing and repeating the actions and words of the person in the video and it can help with healing from the emotional baggage that came from that negative relationship and continues to filter your way in some form or another. I hope you find release.
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