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In need of boy advice
So I have been talking to this guy for a year off and on. At first when we started talking all we did was make out but as the relationship went on we did more. He ended up giving me head. Recently we were at a park, but we just stayed in his car. We started making out then he started to finger me. My pants ended up off and he ended up giving me head. We hung out a few more times after that but then the last time we hung out he didn't wanna hook up because all we do is kiss. I tried to give him a hand job and all he said was don't unbutton my pants unless you're giving me head. I decided to stop talking to him after that because I realized that maybe this wasn't a real relationship and he was just using me. But we would talk on the phone all of the time and text. But Was he just using me? And is what I did slutty?
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This guy was Definately not looking for a relationship. It may not have been obvious to you because you probably liked this guy, but it's pretty obvious when a guy is using a female or not.
What you did wasn't 'slutty', but you should have realized that there didn't seem to be much more to this 'relationship' than just sexual things.
This guy seemed to just be looking for sexual pleasure, sadly.
-Be safe, and take care!
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Yeah, this guy wasn't looking for a relationship. He just wanted sex. I thought you said you guys were talking, not dating?
Anyways, I really hate the word slut. No girl deserves to be called that. And no, if you look up the definition of slut, it's not even close to what you've done. Plus, you thought there was something more going on than there actually was.
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First of all I don't like the word slut or anything like it. The original meaning of the word dates back to 1405 Middle English and has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with a woman's appearance and role as kitchen help. You might want to remember this if someone should ever call you a slut. You can then correct them as to the proper use of the word. Jus saying as we tend to trash our language more than any other spoken language.
As to being used, Yes he was using you. He was using you mostly for his own pleasure. From what you have written his only interest in you was a lustful one. You may have been the recipient of sexual pleasure but it was just sex to him there was no love behind it.
Boys between the time they start puberty and well into their early twenties do not define love as a girl does. Most often they confuse love with lust. Once their lust has been satisfied they are ready to move on to something or someone else.
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You were used, Plain and simple.
Everytime you both hung out, Instead of getting to know each other and spend time together doing things you both enjoy, It always lead to sexual favors. This happened several times, Not once in your paragraph did you say you both spend time together hanging out and enjoying each others company. This is more of a sexual favor thing, If he was into you then he would of cared about YOU and not sexual favors. If you want a relationship then get to know someone, Do fun things together, Talk etc.
This Guy is a real jerk, A guy that cares for you as a person isn't going to try and use you.
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yes and no but you know awell as i do boys want sex i don't know if you have had sex or not but it is fun fun fun and amazing. he is not just using you it sounds like he loves you and wants to have sex to me just ask him if wants sex.
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