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Do I really deserve the chance everyone says I do?
I have to be honest with you in order to get a full answer to my question. I am a 28 year old guy from the UK and I am a convicted sex offender, having been convicted of historic offences when I myself was a child. The offences only came to light when I walked into a police station and handed myself in without warrant for my arrest. The judge, when sentencing me, said that, had I not handed myself in, the offences would probably never have come to light. He also said that I should look at rebuilding my life and return to University, which I was unable to complete because of the case. Probation officers working with me repeat that and often tell me not to be as hard on myself as I am being. I am going through a behavioral course for sex offenders to encourage me not to reoffend and I am serving a community based sentence.
What I don't understand is WHY do many people believe that, after the torment and destruction I have caused to my victims (plural) when offending and to bring it back up and hurt even more people in the process, obliterating more lives, that I deserve another chance? In my eyes, I should have been put to death, but we abolished the death penalty before I was born. Do I really deserve another chance at life when I have destroyed the lives of my victims? Or am I right and I should never see the light of day again?
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Everyone deserves a 2ed chance
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Taking an objective, rather than subjective or emotional view I'd say that although there is a 'pattern' of normal and acceptable behaviour, there are no normal people. Only those who have identified their deviation from the theoretical normal pattern and consciously acted to correct it, (Compensated). And those who have failed to identify the tendency or have identified it and refused to correct it (Uncompensated). I'd say you are one of the former rather than the latter. You cannot undo what you have done however much you beat yourself up. Neither would your execution have erased or changed the events in any way. What you have done will probaly always burn you, that is your pennance and what you have to live with.
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I am going at this with God at my side, just as a heads up. You were right to turn yourself in. But you are wrong to want to die. According to the Lord, every man and woman deserves another chance. No matter how many chances that takes. And God will never hate you, as you may seem to hate yourself, but he may be a bit disappointed in you. Yes, what you did once was wrong, and you must never, ever do it again, but noone has ever learnt without making mistakes first. You do deserve another chance, maybe not in the eyes of everybody, but in the eyes of God, and somewhat in my own. You may not be faithful to him, or even believe in him, but he will always be faithful and believe in you. Best of luck. --in short: Yes, you do deserve another chance-- hope I helped.
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Its relative whether or not you do deserve a second chance.
At the very least, if you can't help your victims it'd be a good idea to help those who need it.
I volunteer-I think you should to.
Its great for building back your sense of self worth. Because although what you did in the past was a terrible thing, you, like your victims have to find ways to cope. Otherwise you'll sink into depression and life wont seem worth living.
You can't change what went on int he past, but you can learn to make up for it. It may not equal perfectly, but there's no harm in, for example, helping out with a charity in some way. The people's lives you interfered with will never be the same again, but you can help change someone else's life for the better.
The fact you don't want to live is a decision governed by emotions. Because of this, people will ignore any claims you make about wanting to not live.
I just think you should put your life to good use and help the thousands of people out there that need your help. So I'd contact some kind of ex-offenders helpline and try to take the first steps to change your life, and someone elses.
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Some people are just more forgiving then others.
In my eyes, Forgiving would depend on the severity of the case. If someone had been raped by a person, I don't think I could forgive the person who had done the rape.
You see, I am gonna drop a bomb here...just giving you heads up.
Many people wouldn't even think to rape someone (example here) so others would naturally wonder how the mind of a rapest even works. Therefore some will resent and hate.
Others believe that people make mistakes and everyone deserves forgiveness.
It depends on the person
I am a pretty old fashioned type and I believe if you do the crime you shall do the time. Sorry
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