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My friend and I Need help with being bullied and disrespected
So im 15/f and my friend is 15/m. However, im gonna be a junior and he's gonna be a sophomore in hs. And he gets bullied a lot! He's short and small and has some issues like if you met him you could understand why he gets bullied. These douchebags at school always pick on him, beat him up and no one does anything about it. Hes also very sensitive and I Just want to help him get tougher skin and to help him stop getting bullied
However, i dont know how to do this because i also get picked on all.the.time. I get racist jokes, jokes about my name, these guys always pick on me in class. Its never ending torture, i mean tbh i dont care and i dont really get upsrt cause theyre just idiots and i just laugh with them cause i think some r just joking and r just assholes in general but for the new year coming up, i want it to stop so i can actually pay attention in class and not feel nervous all the time cause of them. I dont want to use any teacher or parental help cause they dont help they just make things worse..trust me none of these kids care about getting in trouble but if they knew u got them in trouble..well theyd just be worse. So how do me and my friend get respect and make them stop? Should i stop laughing and ignore them? Should my friend get fit so he can take them? Or something? Idk please help and remember how kids can be and dont just give the "Professional" answer but something that can actually work. So yeah sorry this was long but thanks for helping!
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So I understand how you feel about this with bringing in teachers and parents because it can sometimes make them want to tease you more. But I do think that's the number one thing that will fix it.
Besides that, those people are idiots. They most likely won't respect you no matter what you do, so I would advise you to ignore them. If they keep it up, there isn't much you can do. You can ask them to stop and if they keep doing it, then go talk to someone, maybe a school counselor and tell them your situation about them going to tease you more if they found out you went for help. They'll do their best to help you.
As for your friend getting fit to take them, it's good to know things for self defense but only to defend himself, not to fight them.
Hopefully this will be a little helpful. That's a tough situation to be in.
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Hi! First of all, I am so very sorry that people are so mean to your friend. I was bullied in middle school, so I think I can relate to you.
For me, the bullying kind of went away on it's own, when I got to high school. But since that is not your case, here's an article I think you should read. Some people are easy targets for bullies, and I'm one of them. This article helped me realize why I was a target and I think it's helped me protect myself. Here's the link, it's lengthy, but worth it;
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Edited answer: My advice is to continue to call the police and file complaints. IF they are habitual at breaking the law they will receive stiffer penalties and those left behind will eventually meet up with the law. At some point they will either learn to live by the rules, or learn to like living in jail or you will eventually run out of bullies as they will all be in jail.
Continued pressure by the police on the school system will also force the board of education to take some type of action to see to it, that at least in school you are safe from bullying.
This may mean the school system allows police officers in the school as resource officers. My school system has police officers in all High school and middle schools. Do we have a bullying problem? Not to the extent we once had. The resource office patrols the hallways during class changes and when not teaching a now required class on bullying and harassment. He or she is also is in the lunchroom during lunch periods.
You can walk the halls in our schools and see halo's over the heads of almost every kid for they never know where that officer is. If you start a fight or if they see bullying there action is swift and someone has new jewelry. This is what you may have to fight for. We did and it is working.
You and your friends have voice, Use it to get the safe environment you are entitled to.
Unfortunately without the professional answer there is not a lot to tell you about how to stop being bullied. In fact the only true way to stop a bully is to find a bigger bully to protect you.
Not knowing where you live I can only suggest you find out if you live in one of the states that have passed anti bullying laws. If you do then you have the biggest bullies on the block to protect you.
If your state has made bullying a criminal offence then the police and their parents become their bullies. You report the bullying to the police. The bullies may not be afraid of teachers or principals. They will be cowed by being marched out of school in handcuffs by the police.
Once arrested they will be suspended pending trial. There parents are going to spend thousands of dollars for lawyers to defend them. I can't tell you what the end result will be. What I can tell you is that a signal will be sent throughout the school that bullying is not acceptable. They will learn the hard way the consequences of their actions. Their parents will learn to be more active parents responsible for their children in and out of school.
One thing for sure is they will or should be never allowed to return to your school. Some school system have special schools for kids that have had run in with the criminal justice system. Other school systems expel the students and parents need to homeschool them.
Long story short; If the school is not doing their job then report the bullying to the police. Even if they have not had new laws passed yet. It sounds like some racism is involved and some sexual harassment as well. Those laws are already on the books in all states.
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