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me and my sister had sex while drunk
Hi i hard sex with my mom elder brother daughter and since then i haven't been with my normal sense.. please will God ever forgive me for this cos its never going to happen again and i did this out of drunk... please am wating for an answer... thank you all
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In my view you made an alcoholic fueled mistake. Mistakes are not sinful. Sins are something you fully intentionally do that are against god's or mans law. From what you write this was not and intentional act on your part.
You had sex with a first cousin not your sister. Still in most developed nations this is considered unlawful. I'm not sure it is also considered all that sinful. If it is it was not your intent in that you planned to do so and also by law anything done while drunk in regard to sex is done without consent as you cannot legally consent when drunk.
Short answer. Yes you did something we all have been told from the time we figure out our penis is for more than urinating that you did something wrong. I do not believe you committed a sin and you are beating yourself up for no reason. Yes, you feel bad because of how we are all taught. Speak to your cousin and clear the air. Make sure she knows this was a one time thing you did while drunk and will never happen again. Short of you actually raping her she had a hand in this as well if she consented or was drunk too.
One other thing let this be a lesson in the demons of drinking. Consider scaling back or not drinking at all in the future.
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I'm sure that makes her your cousin too, rather than your sister. Deliberately entering into an incestuous RELATIONSHIP, even where it is two consenting adults is of course unnacceptable. A mistake on the other hand, is a mistake. And there's nothing quite like the booze for making us lose control and make a bad idea sound reasonable is there? It sounds to me like you're beating yourself up and punishing yourself far more than any god EVER could. It's passed. And it is not by reflecting on the past that we become wise, but how we use the knowledge gained to shape our future. Have you spoken to the lady in question since? I think a real up-front discussion would help you both put it in perspective. Clear the air, and clear your minds maybe? Good luck, and take it easy on yourself. We ALL make mistakes.
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In title you said sister, Mom's older brother, that would be your uncle. Any of uncles children would be your cousins. So you are saying you had sex with a female cousin. Not sure which it is, but either way, safe to assume you are upset over having sex with a "blood relative" while both of you were drunk.
Now that you have learned what can happen if you drink enough to get that drunk, hopefully you will decide to not overindulge on alcohol in the future.
Whatever you may have heard about God, he is not the Ogre you may think who gets angry about Sin. Sin in archery means to miss the mark, the bulls eye. So that like the goal being to get 100 on a test and you only get 87 cus you got some wrong. Is it a sin to get those questions wrong? NO...it's part of your learning. Your life is the whole learning experience with the basics to learn you have a Father God and begin to learn to talk to him. A piece of him is inside you so what you are feeling, the remorse, he already knows. All he wants to do is put his arms around you and tell you to do better in the future, not repeat the wrong. If you consistently answer the questions you got wrong on a test the same way, you are not getting any where , are you? You must learn to forgive yourself because God has already done so.
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