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Is it normal for a 12 year old boy to not have any friends?
My 12 year old son recently told me that he had no friends and i just thought it was a phase until i popped into the lunchroom one day and he was sitting alone with no one at his table.
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Find out what kind of interests your son has & pace him activities he enjoys, ex: chess club, horse back riding. It is very likely that he will meet kids children there his age with similar interests which should help him to cultivate friendships with them. These friendships may boost his self esteem at school thus creating a bubble of attraction around your son where his peers at school will want to befriend him.
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if his situation is bothering your son, try and sign him up for out of school clubs, where he will meet new people and they will probably have the same interests as him because they will all be doing the same activity out of choice rather than being there because they have to be.
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My 13 year old brother had the same problem growing up. He has a form of Autism called Asperger's disease, which makes it hard for him to form social relationships with people, such as making friends and keeping them. He finally found some though, but I don't really think he'd care if he had them or not. I'm a sophomore in high school, and Autism Speaks came and visited our classes. There were a few kids on the video they showed us with the same disease as my brother, and I feel like this is quite common. Does not having friends bother him? Does he have a VERY strong interest in a certain field or subject? That's a common sign. I wouldn't necessarily worry, he'll find people like him, or people who want to be around him for who he is. Although I do worry about my brother from time to time, he always does something to reassure me that he'll be okay. I feel like everyone has something different in their brain, it's just people like them that have the more rare cases.
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I like the answers the others below have offered. I believe your next step is to have a discussion with some of his teachers and get their observations of your son in the classroom. Does he participate in class activities? Have they observed him being teased? Does he overreact if his space is violated? By the way is he getting good grades in all his subjects? This is also a signal that something could be bothering him if he is not.
For someone that is intellectual and introverted as well it is hard for them to make friends. Kids his age don't understand the intellectuals. They understand kids who want to play ball or other things, not read books or do science experiments.
There is one other thing you can do for you son. Take him to your doctor or his pediatrician. There is a form of Autism that he could be suffering. The doctor could screen him or send you to a specialist. It is a very mild form of this illness and can be easily dealt with. The little I know about this illness says your son is about the right age and may have been suffering from it for the past few years without anyone noticing.
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Hi,
before jumping on to any conclusions, you might want to know why is he behaving like this. Is he usually an introverted kid even at home, or maybe some recent incident has changed him..
you can try talking to him sometimes not like a mum but like a friend.
Sometimes some kids are unique(obviously in a good way) they dont see the world as other kids do, they are more in touch with themselves/inner self.. they are more intelligent and analytical. They dont fuss over things which usually kids of this age.. fuss over. It MIGHT be the case with your kid as well. But just try to listen to him and understand what he says.
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It is possible there is more to the story then what your son has told you. Is he possibly being bullied?
Like the user said below me, he may be introverted. However, If this was the case I do not think he would of told you as most introverts like being alone most of the time.
The best thing would be to talk to your son. Ask him if he thought about joining an after school club or sport that he would be interested in. Maybe if he has any cousins around his age he could start there as they would be a good resource for him to develope social skills. Perhaps his cousins have friends etc.
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He could just be introverted. Introverts are very special and intellectual. He must have some kind of tallent. Have him get involved in what would interest him and he would succeed in.
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