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advise for getting pregnant: I want to get pregnant but he wants to use a condom. How can I let him think he is safe, and still get pregnant like I want?
I am 16 years old girl and my boyfriend is almost 19, we are both not virgins but yet it is our first time together. I want to get pregnant but he wants to use a condom. Is there a way for me to get pregnant even though he is gonna wear a condom?
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The other advisers have done a good job of talking about how wrong it is to trick him into fathering a child for you and how wrong it is for you to become pregnant at your age.
One adviser touched on one issue, that is it is wrong for a 19 year old to be dating and having sex with a 16 year old.
Lets assume for a moment you are successful at tricking him into getting you pregnant. The likelihood of him being able to parent the child, no matter how much he may want to, could be quite hard from a prison cell.
In every state in this country and most developed countries of the world you're under the age of consent. Meaning you cannot legally agree to have sex with anyone. He is over the age of 18, an adult in the eyes of the law. He 3 years older than you making him subject to arrest and prosecution for statutory rape. Statutory rape has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with someone his age dating someone your age. The fact that he impregnated you just adds charges to this crimes even if you admit to tricking him.
Remember the first part of his crime is dating someone 3 years younger then him and then you consenting to something you legally cannot consent to. By the time they finish adding up the charges he will be lucky to get out of prison in time to see his grandchildren graduate College.
Oh that's right your not going to report him are you? What about your parents? They are going to be none to pleased with you becoming pregnant. Finding out that you are see and having sex with someone as old as this man is. Your parents are going to want justice. Even if you refuse to tell them who he is the police will most likely find him and the state will prosecute him to the fullest extent of the law.
How do I know this? Simple I am old enough to be your grandfather. Even though I am very liberal in my views on teenage sex if you were my daughter or granddaughter I would want this man prosecuted. Not because he impregnated you, even if you admit to tricking him,it would be all on you. I would want him prosecuted for he should know better to date and have sex with someone your age. There are reasons people his age seek out girls your age and they are all the wrong reasons. That's why your parents will want justice.
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Tricking someone into having a child with you is wrong.
It's morally reprehensible, deeply disrespectful and unloving, and completely irresponsible.
You owe it to the children that you do have, to be loving and respectful of their father whenever possible. Trapping a man into fatherhood is not just cruel and wrong for him - it's potentially cruel to your children. You can do better for your children than give them a father who resents you (and even them) because of how badly you treated him.
And, you aren't ready to have a child.
You can hate me for saying it. You can disagree if you'd like. But here is the basic truth:
Women who are ready to be mothers don't abuse and lie to their partners.
Women who are ready to be mothers make sure their situation is the best one they are capable of for their child (IE, the aren't teenagers, uneducated and unemployed or under employed).
Sure, these things can't always be controlled, but when they can be controlled, women who are ready to be mothers, control the factors that will add to their families and children's happiness and safety.
He doesn't want a child right now.
This is not a the best situation to bring a child into. It's not even a very good situation.
Having a child now would be selfish of you. Very selfish and self-involved. Not a responsible or respectful choice.
Accept it. Plan for the future in loving and responsible ways both for your relationship and any children you might have.
Don't abuse your partner.
Don't have a baby just cause you want one.
Have a baby when you are prepared to be responsible for one, and give them the best life you are able.
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Are you kidding me?
You want to trick someone into having sex with you so you can have a child?
You are too YOUNG to be thinking of having a baby. Also, it is wrong for a 19 year old man to be dating s 16 year old.
Let me ask you...
Do you have a full time job? Own your own place and car? Do you pay your own bills?
Fact is you are not ready. If you think a 19 year old is older enough to be a father then you have some serious thinking to do. Smarten up!!!!!!!!
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Come on, you're 16! I don't think this guy is the person you want to have a baby with. And you're 16 - TEEN. Wait until you're older and with the right person.
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I'm not even going to get into what a bad idea it is to start having children at 16. That's a whole other kettle of fish.
There are ways to circumvent condoms, but it would be a horrible, horrible thing to do to him to intentionally get pregnant when he's taking precautions.
Relationships are about trust. Actively trying to get pregnant without your boyfriend's consent would be a huge betrayal of trust. If you do get pregnant and he finds out it's because you were trying, he will leave you. I can pretty much guarantee it. He's not going to take too kindly to being played for a fool. No guy would.
Your boyfriend doesn't want children with you right now. Forcing him into fatherhood is not a good way to go. Would you want the father of your children dragged kicking and screaming into it, or would you want him involved and happy? If you think he's going to be ready to settle down and play happy family, you've got another thing coming. He might step up and do the right thing, but he could also bolt. Or he could be resentful and miserable. Not a nice thing to do to him if you really care about him.
Enjoy the time you two have alone together for now. There's plenty of time to plan a family later in life.
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Yes if it bust or had a whole in it. But you are only 16 years old, getting pregnant is not all as great as it seems to be. Focus on getting to know eachother more and finding out if that is someone you truly want in your life for the rest of your life, it is very hard to go from being your one self to three. Not to be rude just trying to help.
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