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Uhm Did my Teacher Abuse Me?
so im a freshman in high school.14/f. the high school and middle school are connected and most of my classes are in the opposite direction of my locker so i just cut through the middle school and it just so happens that i have a class in the middle school but obviously for freshman and up but thats just where the room is. and the teacher who's room it is i've had for 7th and 8th grade and he's a guy. he is just a dick. to make it short. he's pathetic and werid and and creepy i've always been a bitch to him becasue i hated him. but this year i really want to start off good and try to be nicer to people haha but yeah. and so he's werid like he's been doing this ever since i had him, for no reason he stands outside his class to just say hi to people. well i have to pass him like maybe 4x a day. so i just started being nice to him. but he's always been nice to me, but like in a creepy way. like he would only call me by my last name with Miss in front of it and call the other girls by their first. and im not even his student and he still does it. and he has stared at my butt and and body and like thats sooooo different if a like 30 something year old guy is creepily staring at you and not a tenager. but so i have it 1st period i have a class in his classroom but with a differnt teacher. but he still stays out side. so ANYWAY my friend gave me a peice of gum at the end of class, and i was waiting for my other friend so we could go to biology and we were the only two kids or girls in the room besides my hs teacher and the crepy teacher. so my middle school teacher goes, uhm you better spit that out. I said-nahh im ok, he’s like spit it out. and im like we can chew gum in the high school (which we can!) and so by this time my friend walks out i guess thinking i was right behind her. and i start to follow her out the door. and the teacher blocks the door with his body. it was only him in the room and my hs teacher who was on the computer so he didnt see. (thank god he was there....) i try to go around him he blocks me again. and im like fuckin 5 ft 1in or something and hes like really tall like more than average. so the second time i try to go around, i had my backpack on both shoulders and he pulls/drags me to the garabge can and makes me spit it out. it happened so fast, all i could think was wtf? you fucking werido get the fuck off dont touch me. but all i said was im going to be late for class but he didnt care. then i told my friends in biology and they said that its considered abuse. is that true? im just totally curious..i have no idea. thanks for the advice.
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i would hope he wouldnt do anything towards you cause that wouldnt be smart on his end just avoid him and if he says anything out of the way tell him you will report him
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For a teacher to put hands on a student in the manner you describe can be considered "Child Abuse", depending on the laws in the state where you live. The fact that you were being obnoxious to him and failing to follow what he considered to be a proper direction also plays into just how much of an abuse this may have been under the law.
Now by Board of Education rules and terms of his contract this may be a different matter. Where I live there is no Corporal Punishment, meaning if you are not aware, students cannot be spanked or paddled by teachers. Teachers may only lay hands on students for the safety of the student or others. In other words to break up a fight. To do other wise they are subject to termination.
So now the question becomes did the teacher break the law in dragging you in the manner you say and forcing you to spit the gum out? Does your State allow for Corporal Punishment? If so does this fall within acceptable guidelines of Corporal Punishment? In manhandling you did this teacher violate Board of Education Rules?
The answer to any and all of these questions needs to come from the Principal of your school and asked by your parents if they deem it necessary to do so. It is their decision as to whether to press charges be they legal or administrative charges.
My advice is to tell your parents what happened. If you were in any way harmed, shoved into a wall or banged your head. Then my advice is you must tell you parents for this teacher lost control in disciplining you, if that is what he was doing. For a teacher to loose control in that manner is never acceptable.
I will leave it up to you if this needs to go beyond where it is now. If so then talk with your parents.
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It's not the crime of 'abuse' and not 'sexual harassment' either.
It was inappropriate, and almost definitely against school policy for a teacher to put their hands on a student in that manner.
The teacher might have felt you had the kind of playfully obnoxious relationship that would allow for this. If so, he was wrong.
You should tell a principal, VP or counselor at your school. No matter how rude you were (or are) to this teacher, if he doesn't know better than to use physical force like that with a student, then someone needs to help him figure it out.
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Woahh there. More like sexual harassment. Illegal shit much? Might want to report that
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I wouldn't consider it abuse. He shouldn't have reacted in that way, but I don't think it's severe enough to justify an abuse allegation. I am much more concerned about his staring at your butt and body than by him making you spit out your gum.
Regardless, try to think about how you could have handled the situation differently. If a teacher asks you to do something, unless it goes against some fundamental value of yours, it's better to go along. If you won't go along with it, at least be respectful.
Saying something like, "nah I'm okay" when he asks you to spit out your gum is extremely disrespectful. While it doesn't justify him touching you, that disrespect probably made him feel very angry and also hurt his feelings. That ultimately contributed to how he reacted to the situation. Had you been more respectful, I'm virtually positive things would have gone differently.
Remember you said you were rude to him in the past. That makes him think he has to be extremely strict with you now. Show him you've changed, and he'll be more likely to give you some leeway. If you continue to be rude to him, you'll just get on his bad side and he'll go out of his way to punish you.
I would let the gum thing slide, but if he continues to stare at your body, I would let someone know. Just make absolutely sure that he's actually doing it. If you're not positive, you could ruin his career over a misunderstanding.
Good luck.
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