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how to ask my mom to put me on birth control
how should i ask my mom to put me on birth control. she has talked it about butting me on it becouse she found out that i have done stuff but never taken me to a doc or anything. im 16 and my boy friend is 18 we havent talked about even having sex but i want to be on the safe side and be on birth control.
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If you mention to your mom you are having irregular periods and like periods lasting 14 days then normally they will get you on birth control. But thats just my experience and tell her your back hurts like someone cutting into it so this way you have more of a push to get on it.
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According to a Federal Law known as HIPPA, the Health Information Personal Protection Privacy Act. You are now old enough that you do not need parental permission to vist a doctor or request birth control. You have medical privacy when it comes to your reproductive health. No doctor or medical practitioner can release any information regarding, examination or treatment without your written permisiion. Mom can no longer be in the exam room with you during any medical examination, without your permission, as well. You have had this medical privacy and confidentiality since you were 14 years old.
Congress specifically wrote this into the law so that young people, both male and female, would seek medical help for problems with their reproductive systems. This law gives you the privacy you and your doctor need so that you can speak openly to your doctor and that the doctor can properly treat you for what ever concerns you have. Even if your doctor was a close friend of the family or even a relative they risk loosing their license and going to jail if they release any information without your written permission.
The TV program "House" featured a show where this law was shown at work protecting House's patient privacy. Keeping the fact that she was pregnant and going to have an abortion from her parents. Even a court could not force House to divulge the information. This was a fictional program who's content was based in fact.
So to answer your question: Legally you do not have to ask parental permission even if your parents insurance is paying for the doctors visit and the birth control you and the doctor chose.
Based on what you have written though. If you have the type of relationship where you can have an open conversation with your mother then I suggest the following. Take mom out for the day. Maybe lunch at the mall over which you can bring up the fact that she once said something to the effect of putting you on birth control. You can say you are older now and have thought about it and besides the obvious reason for birth control pills. The fact that it also regulates your period seems to you as a good idea also add in that you and your boyfriend are not active sexually in that way.
Otherwise see a women's clinic of your doctor on your won now that you know you do not need parental permission. Also your family doctor cannot refuse you by asking for moms okay. Just say the word HIPPA.
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Put it in a note. She has already indicated that she would take care of this with you. While you both may be uncomfortable writing a note asking her to help you with it is best. It's better to be embarrassed momentarily here than pregnant because you didn't follow through with her. You're being responsible that way.
Just write a note saying "I know we spoke about this earlier and I just want to be honest 100% even though you may not agree with what I'm doing. I also want to be safe can you help me get on the right birth-control?" being honest with her and getting her help is best to keep you safe.
If you want to talk to her just be honest about everything and ask her to help you because you want to be safe not sorry. It's never going to be something free of embarrassment but it's best you talk to her and be honest. She may not like what you are doing but she's your mom and has offered to help before so she should be more receptive than you think.
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