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gaining forgiveness
I have a past that would make anyone ashamed. I have done things that I am not proud of.I have had things done to me that I don't feel comfortable even writing down. My son was taken off me when he was a baby. (He is 2 now). My actions put me in hospital for nearly almost 6 months. I almost died. I wish I had. It would have been so much easier. I have changed though and I don't want to make the same mistakes as before. I want to be a good mum and be part of his life again. My family keep bringing up the past and throwing it in my face. They don't realise that this is starting to tip me over the edge. Is there any way that we can move on from the past and I can get forgivness for the past? I need to be forgiven or I cannot be at peace with myself. How do I show them that I have changed and want to be a better person? X
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Your family sucks. Really, who would do that?
No matter how recent or how long ago this is, you need to talk with them. Tell them you don't want them to keep bringing up things that are painful for you to hear about. If they don't listen...well, screw them.
Your family's forgiveness for your mistakes should not interfere with your peace of mind.
Therapy may help you deal with your past, if you haven't already gotten some. Take life one day at a time. You'll get through.
Judging by your question, you'll make a great mum.
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Your past is just that: your PAST. Make a new future, for you and your son. If your family can't support you in the way that you'd like them to, then they don't deserve to be a part of your efforts. If you feel as if you are stable enough to care for your son, then prove them all wrong. Then, when your family comes around and sees how well you're doing, just remember who was always there for you all along.
There is no better feeling than accomplishing something that people said you couldn't. Do it for yourself and your son :)
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The best way to show them you've changed, is to SHOW them you've changed. Let them see the difference. Be a good mother, a good member of society.
Talk to them also. Explain that you have changed, and that you're trying to start fresh. But with them bringing up the past all the time, it is very difficult. Do it calmly, and do it in person (away from the child. Don't let the children be caught up in situations like this).
Speaking to them will do wonders. It may seem uncomfortable and awkward. But it will certainly be worth it.
Good luck!
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