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I am a girl who is engaged to a girl. My ex girlfriend however is on my mind 24/7 and I am thinking about going back to her. I can't stop thinking about her and I really shouldn't have let her go in he first place, but I have a stable life with my fiancé that I think I would end up regretting in the long run if I left her. Please help me decide. Me and my fiancé have 2 dogs together, I love her family and we live with her mom who is great and only makes us pay a small amount of rent. We have been together for 2 years and both work at the same place. We share my car and are very close. We spend every second of every day together. My ex and I had a very passionate relationship but it ended because back in high school we could hardly ever see eachother. However we remained best friends and started seeing eachother every day. She had dated a lot of guys and I didn't know if she still felt the same about me so we went on with the years just being friends. We would have sex once a month or so when we got drunk or whatever. I loved her more than anything and it killed me so much to see her start dating other people. But I still stuck around as the best friend and watched it all and held her when she cried. I tried to hint to her that I wanted to be with her but she didn't seem to be into it so I just kind of left it at that. I started talking to my now fiancé and my ex would cry every day I spent with her. I would have sex with her and she would just cry and by the time she told me she loved me like I loved her it was too late and I was already dating my fiancé. Lately with my fiancé I've not really been happy and she has become a very angry person. It is turning me into an angry person but when we are around eachother I'm happy. I texted my ex for the first time in a year today and she told me she still loved me and was hoping I would e waiting for her on her doorstep one day and all the feelings came back. I can't stop thinking about her and I'm thinking about going back to her but it's a tough decision because I can't move back in with my parents because they won't let me bring my dog and he has to come . And I don't make very much money to afford my own place . Any advice is appreciated !
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Did you think about your ex at all before your current fiance started being moody? It sounds to me like troubles in your current relationship are making you want to run away to your past. Maybe you and your fiance are moving a bit fast or need to take a breather from each other for a bit. Have you spoken with your fiance about how angry she has been lately? It could also just be a rough patch in your relationship is really shaking you up and making you question if you made the right decision or not.I suggest first trying to work on your current relationship and realize that when times get rough it's normal for us to look into the past nostalgically. Not to say that a relationship with your ex couldn't work but it would just have different problems. All relationships do. In my experience bisexual and lesbian relationships are extremely hard. For exactly the reasons you talked about before the bi girl wants to be with men and her girlfriend has to take a back seat and watch it all. So if you haven't given up on your current relationship yet, then work on it before you decide to leave it. Talk to your partner tell her your worried about how angry she is. Tell her you don't want to live like that. See if you two can work it out. If things start feeling better at home you might stop looking into your past for answers.
If you do decide to leave then i'm sorry but it looks likes your going to loose your dog along with your relationship. Even if your ex wants you to move in with her immediately, those actions have the word DISASTER written all over them. Jumping into living with someone immediately after leaving someone else does confusing things to your mind and emotions. I highly recommend not doing that. You will regret it if you don't give yourself and your feelings time to adjust and think through things. When you get a pet with a partner you risk loosing that pet if the two of you break up. In the future think about it, is the risk of loosing this pet in a break up worth the comfort and love of having it? It's wrong and irresponsible to move in to a situation too fast just to keep your dog. Your better off asking your (would be ex fiancé) to care for it till you can afford your own place then live with your parents for a bit and save money.
If you and your ex are supposed to be together you will find your way back to each other. There is no use creating another regret with your current relationship just to cover up a past regret. It could easily end up in you loosing both of them and your dog. So work on what you have right now and be sure it can't work before you walk away. The only way you know if something is not right is if you try and make it work and it wont. Then you get to walk away knowing that you tried and you have no regrets.
Good luck honey :)
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