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I just wanna fuck with him
So I'm 13 and so is this guy I like he is also 13.he touches me every where my boobs my pussy and my butt.he says that he would fuck me any time any where and any place.he does this all in class. He has also gotten hard right in front of my face in front of class.he said that he wants to fuck me and that if I don't have sex with him that he would rape me in the end of the school year before we go to high school.Well he just makes me so horny that I just wanna have sex with him ?what should I do,he makes me get wet and makes me get on top of his body.whatshould I do ? Should I just lose it already?
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I'm going to try my best to approach this from a place of non-judgment, so bear with me.
I get that it's nice to feel wanted. I do. And I'm not so far from 13 years old that I forget how hormonal I was at that age. Sex was a new and exciting idea, and anything that reminded me of it was fascinating and positive. So I know where you're coming from. I understand why you're getting aroused by this guy's behaviour.
I can tell you that when you're a little older and more experienced, you would regret having sex with this guy. He has no respect for you. He doesn't care about you at all. He's treating you like a piece of meat with a hole in it, not like a human being. You're not a walking vagina. You're a person with thoughts, feelings and a personality. Trust me when I say that you will enjoy sex a lot more when you do experience it if the person you experience it with cares about you as a person.
If you do have sex with this guy, I can tell you it will be disappointing. It would probably last about 30 seconds. You would panic about pregnancy, about STIs and about not being a virgin any more. He wouldn't put any real effort into pleasing you. He probably wouldn't care if he hurt you, either emotionally or physically. He wouldn't want you after his conquest. He views you as easy pickings and is trying to take advantage of your hormonally driven thought processes.
Someone who cares will take the time and effort to make you feel good on the inside and the outside. Wait for that person. I'm not saying wait until marriage. I'm not saying "You're a baby!". I'm telling you that this isn't the right person. When you find a guy who cares about you, who makes you laugh, who treats you like a lady and would be there for you if something goes wrong, that's someone to think about having sex with.
I get that you get horny. It happens to almost all of us, especially at that age. Being horny isn't a reason to have sex. Take care of your urges yourself. I can guarantee that at this stage in your life, it'll be the most fulfilling sexual activity you could have.
I'm also not going to try to shame you over your fantasies. Rape fantasies are pretty common, and have more to do with power play than with violence. The fantasy is a glamourized version of the actual thing, which is really a horrible, horrible thing. When this guy says he's going to rape you, that's not a good thing. It's not sexy. Playing out fantasies with a committed partner is sexy. Being attacked and used by a near stranger isn't.
My advice to you is to stop letting yourself be an object. You're more than just your body. Don't let people touch you just because it feels good to be wanted and liked. Save that privilege for the right guy, the one who deserves it. Tell your teacher that you're being sexually harassed by these guys, and that you aren't comfortable with it. This is a serious matter, and even though you went along with it, it can still be considered illegal depending on where you live, and especially in schools.
Respect yourself. You are a fantastic human being with a lot to offer the world. You're selling yourself short when you hide behind your body. Let people like you for your sense of humour, your kindness, your intelligence.
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I'm not sure what mercury is talking about, though is he/she is correct you need to talk to a therapist for you should not be having these types of fantasies. One day you will try to act them out and you will be seriously hurt possibly hurt to the point you do not survive to see another day. Rape is not a fantasy it is a sick hurtful thing done to harm someone beyond what you can imagine.
Now if you are serious about having sex at 13 you still need to speak to someone as you are way to young to be think about this. Your body may be capable but you are not mature enough to be having adult sexual relations. The harm you will do to yourself having sex at this early an age is irrefutable. Talk to your parents about getting some serious mental health treatment.
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You really should not be letting a guy touch you like that. It's honestly harassment. And guys like to take advantage of vulnerable guys. And of course you would get wet, because it's your body's natural response to feelings like that. Clearly, you get turned on by dirty-talk. 13 is a very young age to lose your virginity and you are clearly having doubts about it since you turned to this website for someone's opinion. And trust me, it doesn't take much for a guy to get hard. You need to realize that there is the possibility that after he does have sex with you, he may not want to do it with you anymore, or look down on you. Also, since you are a virgin, you can surely count on the fact that you might not have such a good time when you first try it. If he has deep feelings for you, then he should understand that he might not get the enjoyment of sex out of your first few times. Will he be there for you through that time? Can he emotionally comfort you through this? I'm not trying to sound like a prick but honestly, these are very vulnerable moments to any girl and these memories do not leave you. So please, I'm not saying not to, but I'm asking you to be smart about it and think about yourself in the long run.
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Listen kiddo,this is not a site to treat sexual dissorders,you are just a kid,so is this little baby you are talking about,he cannot have sex with anybody yet,coz he's a baby,I can see you're the same girl asking about whether you are sick or not,I don't think you are sick,you are just playing with something you know nothing about,so stop asking about these things,stop writing about rape as if it was something to get horny at.Talk this over with a therapist,because it's neither funny nor normal
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