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My mom is mean i don't know what to do.
Well my mom is my best friend but sometimes she can be really mean and i don't know why. I mean it's been like this for quite a while, like over a month now, i mean she's 42 and maybe it's the hormones or something but she gets really irrated and she calls me names like patheic or loser, and i really hate when people call me names and when my mom does it it hurts tiwce as much i don't want our friendship to be ruined but i don't know what i should do i mean when ever i tell her to stop being mean she always yells at me saying that i'm the one being childish what should i do?
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Simply be mature and tell her that it truly hurts you and ask her what's on her mind. Hoped that I could help thanks bye!
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My mom is also around your mother's age so I know how it feels like to have a mom that is always irritated. It definitely does hurt, but I think instead of just arguing with her, you should be the bigger person and just talk to her and find out what is wrong with her. It doesn't have to be menopause because your mom is too young to even be on menopause. Something is bothering your mom and you should be a detective to find out what is bothering your mom. When your mother is in a good mood, go out, hang out and maybe even have fun. If that doesn't work then try to make your mother remember the good times that you have had with her, that would bring back memories and would trigger emotions. Humans are emotional people.
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Could be a sign of early menopause perhaps. Either that or she is depressed and needs to see a psychologist.
Don't take what she says personally. Just look at her as if she's just kinda gone off the deep end and shrug it off. It got nasty between my grandmother and my mom when granny got Alzheimer's in her late 70's. It happens and you're not alone.
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If this is a sudden change in your mother then there is probably something that has caused this. The cause can be physical or environmental.
By environmental I mean new stresses at work. Something you may have done that you thought you have hidden from her or any other external stressors.
As for physical causes there are quite a few that come to mind. At age 42 it is remotely possible that it is hormonal in nature as she may be premenopausal.
The best thing to do is when mom is not irritated talk with her and ask her to see her doctor for a complete physical. If it is stress or something medical the doctor can help her. Better to catch something now rather than later.
If mom is premenopausal the best advice I can offer you is just to give her space when she gets irritated and it will pass. My son and I now joke with my wife about that period with her that it was like watching a tennis match with how fast her mood would swing. There was nothing we could do but stay out of her way on the downside.
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my mom does the same with me, i know what it's like... talk to another friend or family member and ask them what they think. then talk to your mom when shes not busy or mad at you... that should let off a little pressure
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Talk to her when she's not angry with you, ask here if there's anything personal going on with her life. I don't know what your mom's employment situation is, but in this current economy she could be really stressed out about losing her job and not being able to support you, herself, and the rest of the family.
Also, let her know that it hurts when she's calling you names and you would like for her to try to refrain from doing so. Let her know that you're here to listen but that you think that her calling you names is unacceptable, and hurts you quite a bit.
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