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How do I deal with this moving situation....
I'm 17 turning 18 in September and I'm from NY. Early in 2010, my mom decided she wanted to move to North Carolina to move in with her parents (my grandparents) so she could save up money, have less expenses, etc, so that she could put a down payment on a house a few years later. I said I would attend college down there and so that was kind of the plan, and my grandparents were excited and everything. And, well, as the time closely approaches I have been having second thoughts about wanting to go. The first thing is the cost of an out of state college, I can't afford it so I can't start down there right away anyway because I am not a resident and they would charge me A LOT of money for it. So I can't start it right away anyway (dont qualify for help). Another thing is my friends. I will miss them terribly. And mostly everyone's going to the local community college! And my boyfriend's here too. DOn't get me wrong, I know the whole friends/boyfriend thing is stupid to miss but I will, I'm young, of course I'm going to miss them. One other thing about moving down there would mean I'd have to share a room with my mom :/, what teenager wants to do that? Anyway, overall, I told my mom that I want to stay here, and her best friend said I could live with her and attend the communtiy college, etc. My mom, of course, said "no" because "your 17, your staying with me until your 18. then you can do whatever you want." So, unfortunately, I have to go down there from August-end of October (when my bday hits), then I'm coming back up. The dilemma is, however, how do I tell my grandparents that I want to come back to NY? they were all excited and I feel really bad! How do I tell them that I changed my mind about wanting to stay there and that I'm going back to NY? It's not like im going back up and doing nothing. I'm getting a job and going to school. I'll visit them of course. Please help!!
Thankyou
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okay I know you dont want to hurt your grandparents feeling but you are a grown adult and if you sit down and talk to them about why you are moving back they will understand tell them your going to visit and make sure when you do leave send them all your love and leave them letting them know that you will be alright
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I'm 18 as well but im in a much less situation than you. But i will try to help. Moving is hard. So is out of state colleges. So your right about the expenses. If you can convince your mom to let you stay up in NY then your good to go, right? However, It depends if you are capable of maintaining things by yourself. If you can manage that, then things should be more easy for you. But for now, You are going to have to start making plans and backup plans in case you are able to go back up north. Dont give up. But if things get worse, well, it can only get worse before it gets better. But hang in there.
- Manny
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Of course it's not going to be easy to tell your grandparents that your only going to be with them for a short time but I believe that they will understand when you tell them that the only reason your going beck is because of financial difficulties. Also they will understand that you want to make your education and money a little easier for you and not have to struggles in an out of State college. I'm not going to lie to you it's going to make them sad but if they have your best interest for you in mind then they will reconsider making your disision bitter for you. I mean don't do what I did and not go to the college you want to go to for family. I mean my moms well being was the reason why I didn't go to the art university of my choice but you see how unhappy you will be if you don't do want you want. I hope I helped a little in giving you courage to tell your grandparents.
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