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No more legs
Im a 14 year old female. My life has many downs to it. I have many problems too. Then again, I have things to be greatful for. I have a few friends I love and many great church friends. I play high school softball, travel softball, and basketball. I absolutely love sports causr I am mainly a pitcher! Then...last week I was in a terrible car crash. I had to go into immediate surgery and had servere brain injurys that caused me not to remember anyone for a few days. I almost lost my legs completely but I didnt. But i AM paralyzed the rest of my life in a wheel chair!! I never thought anything like that could happen to me. I can
never do sports again or walk again! I just lay in this hospital bed as my friends and family telll me how sorry they are. The amazing part is that I havent cried since it happpened because I want to be strong. Theres noone I have to cry with but now I need a shoulder to burst on!
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I am really sorry. But listen to me. Things happen for a reason I believe. I think that worse could have happened. You are lucky to still be alive after a car crash like that.
I think you should let go of your past and move into the future. You should think about other hobbies besides sports. You could start writing or draw, this will keep you distracted from what has happened to you. When you said you have no one to cry with, I think that you need to open up to people more. Tell your friends and family how upset you are, that you can't walk any more. Show them how you are feeling. The only way to get rid of your sadness completely is too talk to someone that you trust about.
I will add that some of the greatest people alive are paralyzed. One of the worlds most famous scientist is paralyzed and can't move any part of his body except his left eye. Still, he continues to do his work, he continuos to create new things. Even tough only his eye can move. He has special glasses connected to his eye to detect movement, so he can work on a special computer. He is still a very famous man in history, and because of him, the world has improved.
Now think back at him, and compare him to your condition. You can't walk, but you can still do other things. You must make the most of your life. And let me remind you that every one has a sole mate, you will meat yours when it is the right moment. So don't beat up your self that you don't have any one now, you can get some one.
In your free time you could write a novel on how bad it is to be in a condition like this. You could help people with their problems. Tell them how lucky they are, tell them not to nag because so many poor, and injured people would wish they had what they have. You can still fulfill our true destiny. This accident is just a bump in the road. Yes, it might make some things more difficult, but you have to remember what an amazing human being you are, legs or no legs. Please, email me any time you need someone to tell your problems too, I am here to help.
If you want any more advice, please email me on AskAliceMadisson@hotmail.com. IF you don't trust that I give professional advice, please go to my temporary website to see to examples of advice I gave to people, which helped them. My website is www.askalicemadisson.webstarts.com
Advice of the week: Yesterday was the past, Tomorrow is the future, today is a gift, that's why it's called the present!
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Hi, I m old enough to be your grandfather. Hopefully the wisdom that comes with age and my life experience will be helpful to you.
I am so sorry to hear about your accident and how it has left you. I can understand how you fell as I too had an accident that has left me with a disability that I must deal with everyday. At this time my disability does not affect my mobility but someday I may have to deal with the possibility of being in a wheelchair because of it.
Yes, you need to cry. I cried too, not because of my disability I can and will deal with it. I cried because of the things my disability will and did cause me to loose. Yes even at my age I cried. There are times when crying helps us deal with what we are facing, helps us unload so we can move forward. It is not required of us to be strong for others. Others need to be strong for us.
Some of this I learned in talk therapy with a psychologist who is helping meal deal with my disability and the depression it has caused me. I am learning a lot about myself and gain the strength to see life beyond my disability. I've also learned how not to allow other to treat me differently because I have a disability.
My advice: Ask the hospital to have a psychologist visit with you. You may or may not be suffering from depression as I am. what talking with the psychologist does is give you someone you can be totally free with when talking with him/her.
By law since you were 13 years old you have medical confidentiality. Your doctors cannot release any of you medical information without your written permission. The only time they were able to do this was on your admission to the hospital when they needed permission to operate to save your life. Then as next of kin they had the right to know so they could make proper medical decisions for you.
Now you can make those decisions or you can give written permission for your parents to make them. Still each doctor needs that permission in writing. So while you are being treated for your physical ailments and may give permission to your parents to consult with those doctors. Separate permission would be needed to consult with your therapist. This law is called HIPPA.
My wife, son and I all have cross permission for medical information. I did not give my therapist permission to release any information to either my wife or son. While they have both consulted with her on several occasion she listened to their concerns but gave them no information without consulting with me first.
To bring this to a completion, you can feel completely confident in speaking with psychologist and I full suggest you do so. Unburdening yourself about how you are truly feeling in a secure manor such as talk therapy will aid in your recovery and your ability to move forward.
There are still sports you can do from a wheelchair and your church and friends will be there for you. What you need is a positive attitude. I know you can develop that attitude. I and the other advisers are always here if you need us.
Good luck, I know you will develop the positive attitude you need and come out of this a stronger person.
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I'm sorry to hear about what happened dear. It's admirable that you want to be strong but your human you also need a shoulder to cry on. Perhaps you could talk to both your parents or either one whom you feel more comfortable with. Maybe a close brother or sister or your best friend whom you trust. Breaking down is just but human and when we are down God lifts us up. Above all my dear remember God is your father, with him you don't have to be strong when you realy aren't, because theirs nothing hidden from Him. Actually He want's you the way you are. Just the way you are. Talk to Him like your best pal, cry, and express all your emotions to Him, He cares and loves you alot.
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Hi there!
I don't want to say that sucks because sometimes the most amazing things come out of things that seem to be the worst.
I am just trying to remember, but I read a story just the other day about this lady who ended up being paralysed from the neck down, and went on to get married, and become this really famous author and speaker who travelled around the world telling everyone her story, talking about God and encouraging others!
Her name is Joni Eareckson Tada and she has a website: www.joniandfriends.org
She's a Christian too!
maybe it is a God thing that I read that story just the other day, and now I am on here for the first time today, and able to tell you about her! Check her out, she is amazing! i am sure you will feel encouraged!
Also, I like in Christchurch, New Zealand, and we have just had the paralympic world champs here and people with disabilites like yours are incredible, and WAY more fit and sporting than me! You should google that and pray that if that's what God want you to do, then to help it happen, otherwise work at a great recovery and pray for him to show you what he is going to use you for!
We have just had humungous earthquakes in our city (our family is okay), but we know this young Christian woman who was parked in her car right by her church where she worked. The wall of the building (a huge concrete slab) came down and flattened her and her car down to the level of it's tyres. Remarkably she lived! I bet that if God does something like that to a Christian, it's because he has an amazing plan to use you for something incredible! (Just like you!)
I hope we get to keep in contact!
from your sister in Christ!
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I am so sorry,This is a terrible story.
I think you shouldnt try 2 srtong because it might hurt more.
Why dont you cry on your parents shoulders?.I know they can help
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