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is it ok to give a handjob?
im 19 and im seeing thia boy and im just wondering will it seem wrong if i give him a handjob i know im not ready for sex yet but im willing to give him a handjob but i don't want it to seem wrong. Is it wrong?
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When I was in school, I knew a lot of girls that would give their boyfriends blow jobs or hand jobs to keep them happy without having to go all the way. So if you think you need to do this to keep him from going somewhere else until you're ready for sex, then I would say go ahead. Most boys are happy if they can have an orgasm without doing it themselves. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Hi, I am one of the older advisers on this site and it is questions such as yours that I have chosen to be an advice.
I have very liberal views when it comes to sex. Basically my views boil down to two very basic rules.
The first Rule:There is nothing wrong that can be done between to CONSENTING adults as long as both parties CONSENT and neither party is truly physically harmed.
The second rule is: COMMUNICATION; you and your partner need to communicate both your needs and your limitations. In what you have written you need to communicate to your partner that you are willing to give him a handjob but that is the limit of your sexual interest at this time. He needs to understand this before you start any type of sex play with him.
For now it is a handjob, in the future you may allow him to finger you. Whatever steps you take, including when you actually have sex you need to communicate your limitations. Whatever you and your partner are planning to do together it MUST be MUTUALLY acceptable or it doesn't happen.
If you and your partner(s) follow these two basic rules; with the understanding that NO means NO and STOP means STOP even if you are already having sex, you can have a wonder sex life. Sex is something to be enjoyed as well as for procreation. If you, when you are ready and you decide to explore the different aspects of sex you need to remember my second rule, communications. It is no ones business but yours and your partners as to what or how you do things. There is never anything weird about sex if both parties, or more, are consenting.
Hopefully I have answered your question. I think your boyfriend would enjoy getting a handjob from you. Given my views on sex I believe you now understand that nothing is wrong as long as you both consent and both know the limitations involved. I see no problem with his consent, just make sure he understands your limitations. Remember communications is also key to a happy sex life.
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as long as YOU are comfortable with doing this. then its not wrong. just make sure your BOTH want to move this fast ( this is dependent on how long you have been going out)
hope this helped
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Here is a thought: Since you can get STDs from ANY form of sexual contact, including this (HPV (genital warts,) herpes, etc...) why not make this rule for yourself:
I am either ready to have ALL kinds of sex with this person or NO kind of sex.
That way, you don't slut yourself out to someone who is only using you to be able to tell his friends you did this or that with him.
Wait until you are sure before you do something that will let him trash your reputation, and open you up to diseases that don't have a cure.
Sound good?
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