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cheating
is it cheating when your husband fills out a profile on personals? and is it cheating when he coresponds to personals on craiglist?
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If that is ALL he is doing, then he's not cheating but probably planning to. Let him know you're aware of it before he actually does something.
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If that is all he is doing then the answer is no. The question then becomes can you be sure that is all he is doing?
If you have any evidence your husband is cheating. Such as suddenly working later, taking business trips he never did before, working weekends and so forth, then you would be correct in assuming he is cheating.
If you have any suspicions that you husband is cheating the first thing you need to do is be checked for AIDS and other STDs. Then you have a decision to make as to if you want a divorce or not.
Until you decide if you are going to divorce or not. And if you are going to continue to have normal marital relations with him it is a good idea to have him wear a condom if you are not using them at this time. This is for your protection and it will also send a message to him that you know what he is up too.
Your husband may not be cheating on you at this time. The subject of doing so may be on his mind though. If so this is an opportunity for you to find out what may be wrong in your marriage from his point of view.
Since I am at the grandfatherly age of life let me offer some grandfatherly advice which is not meant to offend. It is in answer to your unasked question.
The fact that your husband is doing as you say does not mean he is actively cheating. What I see is your husband may be unhappy with something in you marital life. Very possibly your sex life.
Sometimes a man will want to do something in there sex lives they would never ask their wife or lover to do, though would be more than willing to ask a total stranger for or even a prostitute.
My views on sex have always been nothing is kinky or weired as long as both participants are consenting. Whatever anyone else may think of a particular sex act is not material. I was fortunate in that my wife feels the same way and will try most anything once.
If I am correct in what I am thinking about your husbands motives and you wish to save your marriage then you need to think about some things and then talk to your husband. Let him know what you know and ask if he wants to talk about anything. You should add that nothing is off limits he would be free to ask your opinion on anything and you would not think any less of him for asking.
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If your husband is corresponding with personals on craigslist it's time to get a divorce and an STD test.
I literally never thought I'd hear myself say something like this, but I hope you get his balls in the divorce. Keep your mouth shut and start collecting evidence. Files, screenshots, e-mail accounts.
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It's betrayal. It's lying. It's wrong.
Don't get stuck on defining 'cheating'. It doesn't matter what the word means. You both know what happened: He betrayed you. Misled you. He broke your trust. That is as bad as anything called 'cheating'.
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If he's not cheating then he's definitely intending to.
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