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considered rape?
17/f
i just wanted to know if this would be considered rape. so heres the story.
i was at a new year's party last year. i was with my best guy friend. i drank and smoked a blunt with him. i got drunk and high but he didn't. we went to the beach to go swimming, i took off my clothes except for bra and undies, he took off everything but his boxers. i don't know how ALL of my clothes came off or telling him it was okay for him to take my virginity. it was almost as if i blacked out for a little while, when i opened my eyes i felt the worst pain i've ever felt although i wasn't sure what was going on. he asked if i wanted him to stop, i still didn't know what was happening and i replied no. very shortly after i realized what was happening and i told him to stop and he did. i was a virgin and he wasn't. i wonder if this is rape because i never gave him permission from the beginning. i know he definately took advantage of me after being drunk and high and nowhere near my right mind.
thank you
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I'm sorry, but this is absolutely rape.
You put the alcohol and drugs into your body, but that does NOT give ANYBODY, under ANY CIRCUMSTANCES to take advantage of you. Don't think at all that it is your fault, because it's not. Do NOT listen to anyone that said it's your fault because you were drunk/high.
I'm a sophomore in college, and during the summer before my freshman year, everybody had to complete this program on the computer called "AlcoholEdu." I remember them repeatedly trying to get the point across that if a girl is drunk, she in unable to give consent. It is RAPE if you have sex with someone that is under the influence. You're not in the right state of mind to give consent. You're vulnerable after drinking.
You said "I never gave him permission from the beginning." -- if you never gave him permission, it's rape. There's a very fine line, if there even is one, between being taken advantage of and rape.
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This is a tricky question
When people are under the influence of alcohol depending on how much was taken in, Some people are not aware of how they act or what they say and sometimes people don't even remember what happened. Do you fully remember that night? You said you told him to stop, Yes that is rape. However, A year later would be hard to prove evidence unless of course a lie detector was involved somehow.
This is a link to a hotline for teens it is fully anonymous. The first step of getting over a rape is to seek help from someone you trust. Family, Friends or even hotlines
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Absolutely it's rape. I have no idea what the other columnists are thinking. No way is it your fault! You shouldn't have been drinking or smoking, but that has nothing to do with the fact that he took advantage of you. Since you were drunk/high you couldn't give consent. That's how the law works. You should go after him. What he did to you was completely wrong.
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No, it wouldn't. I'm sorry about what happened, but you put yourself in that position by smoking and drinking in the first place. And to be fair to him, he did stop when you told him to. When you drink and smoke, your judgement becomes impaired, as I'm sure you already know, so things like this happen. You don't remember what happened, so for all you know you could have been the one to initiate it. Anyways, it's too fuzzy but from what you've said I wouldn't consider it rape. These are just the consequences you have to realize can occur when you do things like drink and smoke and put yourself in these positions. Best of luck, Jess.
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Hey
Im sorry about what happened.
But I wouldnt consider it rape, because you told him to stop when you wanted it to stop and when he asked to if you wanted him to stop carrying on you said no. Even if you werent fully aware of what happened to told him when to stop and not to stop. Its only what I think, I may be wrong. Take this experience as a lesson and learn from it.
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