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He has a girlfriend, but I let him do me anyway, am I a slut?
Okay this might be kind of long but there's this boy I've been looking at on facebook for about a year and one day while at school me and my friends started talking about him and I got really turned on about it and he doesn't even go to my school. So one of my friends was like she knew him so she said she would introduce us. He wrote me on facebook that day and me and him started texting. So the next day he asked me out so me and my friends went out with him. While we were out me and him started making out and then he started fingering me. It was GREAT at the moment but I felt bad because me and him were only talking for a day before I let him do that and plus he had a girlfriend. They broke up today and I think its sort of my fault because a lot of their friends were there. Am I a slut? Is it wrong that I wanted to be with him? Is it bad that me and him almost had sex? Female 14
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I'm not going to call you a slut because I think people use that word too loosely nowadays, but I think you need to seriously consider what you've done. No, it isn't wrong that you wanted to be with him but the problem is that you acted on it. How would you feel if you had a boyfriend and he was doing these kinds of things with another girl? That's a terrible thing to put someone through. It's his fault too, of course, for pursuing this kind of relationship with you when he had a girlfriend. So, you are BOTH in the wrong, and I hope that you never do something like this again...being cheated on is one of the worst experiences out there, and I hate seeing so many young men and women doing it. Also, if you try to have a relationship with this guy, who's to say he won't cheat on you? He's done it once and you know what they say; once a cheater, always a cheater. I recommend you find a nice, good, SINGLE guy to go after that will respect you and any boundaries you have for yourself. Best of luck, Jess.
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You were both wrong
This boy has a girlfriend, You knew that but you let him take advantage of you anyways. At age 14 their raging hormones are focused on taking advantage of girls insecurities and here is where you gave in. Anyone who plays around when they have someone is nobody you want to be in a relationship with. A "player" always has people on the side and here you were just that girl. One more person who he could try and get what he wants out of. You are young, Having sex at your age I would VERY careful. Seek birth control and condoms because at`14 it is way to young to be raising babies. How would you like to be in the girlfriends shoes?...You betrayed her, You gave into him and most of all you completely disrespected yourself. Were you wrong about wanting to be with him? Yes, He is seeing someone else and he was currently in a relationship and you interfered with that. Are you a slut? No, You made poor judgement. Sometimes boys say what girls just want to hear this is where some people use the term "pick up line" it's just a way of getting what he wants. Find someone that doesn't have a girlfriend and won't take advantage of you. Trust me your better off that way.
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