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Should I listen to my parents in this situation?
I'm a teen girl and got into anime while at summer camp. I attempted drawing anime and my friends all thought they were really "good." My mom found them and was like, "You drew this?" She disapproved incredibly and doesn't want me to draw anime anymore because she says I won't be able to draw non-anime things well anymore. Both of my parents have master's degrees in art and my dad is neutral. I'm really embarrassed that my drawings were found for some reason; I guess they were kind of private.
Should I listen to my parents and stop drawing anime? I really love drawing it and I even have manga ideas.
Thank you!
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Hi, Well im a teen too in fact im having a problem maybe just like that but with my grandma i dont know why my grama dosnt like it my mom loves how i draw im always drawing thats why when i grow up i wanna be a fashion desiner and if it dont work out an artist ..I belive you should continue have fun talk to them explain to them why is that you love drawing anime so much i belive theres nothing wrong with that at leats your not doing any thing bad .
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Your parents are older, from a different generation. They don't understand anime, or know that it is an extremely lucrative and valuable art form, and many respected and educated people make a good living from doing anime. Keep drawing! There's nothing wrong with it.
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if you enjoy drawing it keep doing it i have friends that draw amazing anime and can also draw very realisic as well. its just another art medium it won't affect your other drawing styles if you keep them seperate just let your mom know that.
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You should be able to draw what you love. And if for right now it's Anime then do it. The thing about art is that you should do what you feel. Learn your craft and master it. I have no idea why your parents feel the way they do. Maybe it's because they have master's degrees and just aren't used to your type of art? I have no idea. Study anime and draw some more then show your parents everything you love about your craft. My suggestion start with the parent that is more neutral so it will be a little easier. Good Luck to you! :)
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I fail to see why what you draw should be an issue. I went through a shark phase where someone gave me a book full of pictures of sea life and I was filling pages drawing sharks swimming around reefs and stuff, that lasted from like 8-12. I got into video games and started drawing game characters and stuff as well.
Can't say I agree with listening to your parents. If you want to actually do something with your artwork someday you've got to do what you have passion for, and if right now it's Anime then do what keeps you drawing.
You're a teenager. You'll grow up, be exposed to more things, and if art is truly a calling you will diversify your skills. Or maybe you'll end up a manga-artist, which isn't exactly a bad career if it's something you enjoy.
If it's just a pass time then it doesn't matter if you can only draw anime, it's just something you do to amuse yourself.
Either way, your artistry is meant to be some kind of an expression of yourself. In the music world, this situation is when a kid learns to play guitar and his/her mother tries to get the guitar away and push the kid into classical piano. It's not really ok then either.
Having parents who have masters in art... it's sad that they don't remember their own adolescent experimenting and can't get that you want to do what you want to do. Maybe your mom was the kid in the above story at one point.
Do what you want to do. If your parents get to the point of trying to punish you tell your mom that she's got no right to direct your artistic expressions when you're not doing anything bad with it.
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You know, I find it interesting... the first response you have here is almost violent in tone, and the second very well reasoned.
I imagine that there is a little bit of both those sides going on in your own head over this, so I would like to ask the obvious question:
Why does she think you won't be able to draw non-anime images? When she tells you that, do you think her reasons are reasonable? If no, you are going to have to calmly explain why you don't think so, and see if you two can some to some common ground someplace in the middle.
There is something to her concerns, you know? How many styles does a great master usually paint in? One. Why is that? It takes a lifetime to culture a style, usually.
Perhaps she is afraid that anime will contaminate any non-anime art you try to do. I know several people who draw anime and, for them, this is true. Everything they draw is tinged with a style right off page one of "How to Draw Anime." :-)
Not everyone is the same. Talking this out with your mom AND your dad is a good idea. Be calm. Start a screaming match and you only hurt yourself.
One last thing: Ask yourself why you were embarrassed when your drawings were found. That might be the most important question to answer in all of this.
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I see where she's coming from, but I think it's an overreaction. Some forms of anime style are incredibly simple, and if you get stuck in a rut with it, it's hard to break out. My suggestion would be--and you can suggest this to her--that for every one thing you draw anime style, you draw something in some other style. Tell her you want to cultivate that style as part of your growth, and ask for her help in developing other styles so you become a more skilled artist. That sort of spare, line-based style of drawing in anime is good in some ways because it'll make you think about the simplest way to show something. It's just not the end-all-be-all of art.
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Your mom is dead wrong. You can draw damned near anything or paint it for that matter and be good or even great at other forms of art.
It sounds to me that she doesn't know anything about the art form and our holds prejudices as an art teacher about it. It doesn't matter if they both have art degrees they can still be prejudiced or ignorant about it. That's her problem to deal with and not yours.
Perhaps she thought the drawings were crude or not at her level. Maybe she fears if you continue doing them people will see and it will be a status thing with her if they know you did them or something.
Whatever her reasons for her bizarre comments to stop do the opposite and keep at what makes you happy when it comes to art and not them. But at the same time continue doing other forms of art. It won't diminish your abilities.
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