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My friend is crazy. Literally.
Ok I know that there are probably Zero doctors or therapist on here, but I'm hoping that there are high school
and college students on here:) & I know nobody can actually diagnosis this, but I just want an opinion
of what she may have or advice how to handle her.
My friend Lauren has a lot of problems. Her mother died when she was young. She is a huge huge huge liar. To the
point, I don't even think she knows the difference between her lies and the truth. She has made up multiple different
people and will text guys pretending to be these girls. She will talk to them for a long time, actually I think she is still talking to a few. Last may she was put into the
hospital for having a eating disorder. She almost
died. She has gained almost all the weight back. She can be very loud and has never had a problem going
up to a random guy and telling him he's hot.
I don't understand her at all. She's one of
my best friends, but I can't figure her out.
I want to know if anyone is in or was in any pysch classes, types of disorders I could look up that it might be.
Also, how do I handle this girl, in general.
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Don't try to self-diagnose as you may be wrong and if you acted from what you read it could be more dangerous for you both.
She may not have a disorder at all and then again she might. But, it's not your place to suggest that or try to help unless you see her headed for crisis.
Right now all I can confirm to you is that she's a pathological liar. She's not about to change and may be using these fictional people and talking back and forth to them and as them to people for attention, a coping mechanism or because she has mental-health issues.
An eating disorder is more of a mental-health issue than it is a physical one. She has to find out what is at the root of that and get treatment.
She probably tells her doctors a bunch of crap to stay out of a hospital but I'm sure they must know and be concerned about her weight.
Truth is unless you learn she has a mental-health problem you won't know how to "handle her" any better than you have been nor can you help her see that the lying and fictional characters is wrong.
You may want to watch Catfish a film that was leaked recently online about a woman that invented several fictional characters and had most of the issues minus eating problems that your friend had. Maybe the documentary will show you what this friend may be doing herself.
Also, don't use the term crazy. She may have mental-health issues but they can be treated and she's not a loon or a write-off for having them nr is she to be pitied. It's all treatable.
If very concerned for her tell your parents about her history and what she is doing. Maybe they can talk to her family. You can also talk to your teachers or counsellors and tell them that your friend's behavior is very strange and you think she's got a big problem brewing. They can step in and talk to her family.
You can try talking to her yourself but I doubt she'd see a psychiatrist and would probably tell you where to go and be ultra defensive. I do think however you should get an adult to intervene as her behavior isn't normal at all.
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First of all I will say that I think you need to be patient with her, and try to be there for her, next semester I am taking a physchology class and you can email me at roserenee16@yahoo.com if you want more information I haven't taken it yet but I will be soon.
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Without actually sitting down with the girl and having a real session for proper evaluation, anything anyone supplies here cannot be considered as a real, factual diagnosis. Essentially, we can only take a wild guess, or, as they say, a stab in the dark. Therapists cannot properly diagnose without having the patient one-on-one because there may be things you do not reveal that she would, including very large factors.
This could be anything from sociopathic behavior to the swings that accompany the bipolar diagnosis. The girl may be severely depressed, disassociated from life, or even have a mental handicap. She may even suffer from a multiple personality disorder that you haven't discovered yourself yet (or that she, herself, is not even aware of at this time).
If she has been in treatment for an eating disorder then, chances are, she has had a few diagnosis to deal with from her personality traits. She may even have been prescribed medication to take to calm her strong personality and chooses not to take them. This isn't up to us to really figure out.
Keep your distance. Don't get too attached to the girl. Recognize that she has a problem and don't fall for traps she may lead you into. Remember that she is, likely, not mentally capable of rational thought at this time so keep a head about yourself and mind your own actions. Handle her as if she were a distant friend. Be kind to her, but know that you cannot place your trust completely in her until she become more mentally, and emotionally, stable. You cannot force her into treatment. You cannot make her suddenly change. Just keep your distance, stay on her good side, and think things over of what she says before going along with her ideas, suggestions, or comments.
Remember that many sociopaths feel the world revolves around them and will use you while they can before stepping all over you. People with bipolar disorder can wreak havoc on your own emotions. A person with multiple personalty disorder may never know they have a problem, and, thus, may not be entirely responsible (not legally speaking; legally it's one body, one crime) for some of their actions. A depressed person may act irrationally and cause you to fall into their downward spiral. Be smart, talk to a therapist about YOU if YOU think YOU need it, and stay on the good side of people, in general.
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