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What to do about my friend being high
Well I met a new friend this year and i got along with her really well. But she has fallen in with the wrong crowd and she is high all the time now. I feel as if i shouldn't talk to her at this point but I also feel like I should help her, but I have no idea how I would do that. Should I just let her be? Or should I do something? if so, what?
Thank you for reading this.
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talk to her about it.
say you know what she is doing and tell her the hazards of getting high. say it doesnt help her get anywhere in life. there are no benefits to drugs or alcohol. all it does is make life worse for people. i've never EVER heard of someone who does drugs and somehow benefits them.. or someone who is an alcoholic and the alcohol helps them...
let her know that it is a stupid decision and wont get her anywhere in life. one day she will look back at her decisions and regret them.. tell her that no matter how far down the road she goes, she can always make a U-turn and turn around and change things.
ask her if she's doing it for attention? or whatever. let her know that you care about her and your friendship and that you dont support drugs but you do support her. let her know that you'll be there for her if she ever needs someone to talk to or needs help.
if she refuses to listen to you, i would either
A- keep trying and call for help like her parents or your parents or any sort of guidance counselor/principal/teacher and let them know
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B- stay away from her. people who are friends with other people who get involved with the wrong crowd are like whirlpools. they suction people in and in your case.. i would stay away from her. you might feel like you dont want to because you care too much about her. but honeslty, would you rather risk yourself getting into that trouble.. or would you risk her getting into worse trouble? care about yourself first. then her. if you're willing to put yourself into that risk of danger- then by means go be friends with her. i'm just letting you know that if you stay friends with her, theres a chance or possibility that she can pull you in with her crowd. its your risk.
good luck.
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Tell your friend that adults and fellow classmates have noticed that she has a substance abuse problem and isn't fooling anyone coming to classes stoned. Tell her that you value her friendship but that she needs to stop for her own health.
I think she must be someone who has little self-esteem and wants badly to fit in albeit with the wrong group. She ends up doing what they're doing but make no mistake using was her choice to do or not.
You can also approach your parents, counsellors, teachers in confidence and explain what you have noticed and your concern and let them handle her parents and getting her support.
There's not much chance she will know it was you. Even if she did know and got angry in the end you will know you did the right thing. If you just let her be you aren't helping her problem and it could get worse.
Right now its affecting her schoolwork, relationships, and definitely health if all she is doing all day every day is getting wasted. It doesn't matter how hard the drug she's got a problem when she can't function without it. Someone needs to step up and that's you. You have to be brave and whatever happens will happen but you did right by her.
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