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am i a slut . !
ohk well im 13 , and im a sexual person with both genders . i feel as if im a slut but i cant help not to do stuff with people . and i hate it when people call me a slut . like if they were sexually active they would prollly be the same way . sex feels great . it sucks tho that im only 13 and i already had sex . im moore mature than most girls in my grade . i have all older friends that are in 11th 10th grades and so on. can you guys help me thanks (:
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You can't be sexually liberated at 13. You don't have an adult frame of reference to understand the world around you.
You're actually less mature than your friends. They understand that they aren't ready for sex and abstain. You think that because you're physically capable and enjoy it that you're ready.
Having friends a few years up in high school doesn't make you more mature. Maybe a little more intelligent than average, maybe a little better at insinuating yourself into social situations, maybe a little more manipulative.
You said you can't help not to do stuff. That's bad. Why can't you say no? Because the people you're associating with who freely have sex with a 13 year old wouldn't want you around if you weren't sexual?
Sex is your in. It's how you "prove" you're able to hang with the older crowd. Act like an adult and others might even sometimes pretend you are one, but you aren't. You aren't old or experienced enough to know when you're being used. You don't have enough self esteem to care. You just like the way sex feels, and like the feeling of being liked that others give when you're willing to be freely sexual with them.
Thing is, giving sex is not a foundation for respect.
No respect means that the decent guys won't come anywhere near you. It means the shitty ones will flock to you hoping for a free lay up until you become the girl that everyone's had and people go to when they can't get any anywhere else.
No respect means that your friends will be friends of convenience, and when you aren't convenient they'll leave.
Something you should know about people. They become used to a continuing situation quickly, no matter how out of the ordinary. If someone parked a tank in your neighborhood, the first day everyone would be talking about it and looking, and a month later no one would even see the thing when they pass it by.
It's the same with you. If you give sex freely, soon people will just expect it of you. People will want more from you in order to even like you and want to be around you. You'll have to give them sex, and other things. If you build all of your relationships on your willingness to give people something, everyone will expect you to give them everything. Everyone who expects anything of you at all, at least.
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NinjaNeer is basically right on this (as he seems to be in general). Being a "slut" is relative. To a prude virgin, you're already a slut. To a porn star, you're conservative. The important thing is to stay healthy. Use condoms every time, and get tested when you can. Talk to your partners and develop a level of trust with them. If you use protection, and you trust your partners and communicate with them, well have fun!
It's true you're getting an early start. Personally I would think it's a good idea to wait at least two or three years to really get sexually active. But hey, if the cat's out of the bag, your first priority is to be careful, to communicate, and to be honest.
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There's a difference between being promiscuous and being sexually liberated. If you're having protected sex, getting tested in between partners (and insisting that they're tested first) and selectively having sex, then you're taking a mature approach to sex and you're not a 'slut'. Anything less than that is sketchy.
However, most people at your age aren't ready to deal with the actual consequences. Are you going to be okay with your 'number' when you're 16, 20, 25? 10 guys now means a likely total of 30+ by the time you hit 25. It's all about your personal values. There's also always the risk of STI infection, unwanted pregnancy and exposure (like someone telling personal details about the experience).
Yes, sex feels good. It feels even better when it's done with a person who you care deeply about. Having sex because it feels good is like eating nothing but chocolate bars because they taste good. It's bad for you if you don't practice moderation. There are other ways to make yourself feel good that are consequence-free (masturbation, anyone?).
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Well being a slut is going round and shagin anyone that comes to eye and wearing tight as fuck stuff and short stuff if you do all tht you are defonetly a slut k. But having feelings like like when your 13 is normal so dont worry and your not a slut!..xx
Your Friend CuteyKitty123!..xx
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you're not a slut you're just more matured and you blossomed faster, how many times have you had sex? Believe me, I almost had it once but my parents were home and there's no way we can be alone together without an adult around and I have never told anybody lol but you're not a slut, long as you know the truth. There just immature, probablly jealous, or it may go against there beliefs and they resent you for that. Is it really bad the first time? Like painful? and how many times does it take to get better? Curiosity killed the cat.....lol
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Well it is not slutty to explore new things, however at thirteen it is not the best decision to be having sex with multiple people. Exploring who you are attracted to is one thing but regardless of how mature you are (and I know you probably hate hearing it) but you should not be having sex at thirteen. I myself lost my virginity when I was fourteen to the guy I am still with three years later and I must say I got lucky. You should really wait till you find the person you want to be with for the rest of your life, and then cross that road later on in life. Enjoy being thirteen. (:
Hope I could help. (:
---Taylor
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