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feeling pretty.
16/f
i have always had trouble with self esteem. and i know that i do have pretty qualities but i have trouble embracing them. how can i make myself feel pretty and stop picking away at all my flaws?
thanks:)
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wear stuff that makes you feel as pretty as im sure you are
wear makeup
wear skimpier clothes than your use to
but thoose shoes uv wanted for years but never splurged on
embrace being a beautiful woman
when your picking away at your flaws just think about the good things about you.....
when i was in therapy we took a big board
and cut out pictures of people from magazines
that i thought had features that were pretty on them and on me it made me feel better so you try that...!
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i hope that helped i appreciate comment and ratings to make theese the better
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Go out and buy some index card/flash cards and every time you do something that makes you feel good or every time you accomplish something and you feel proud write it down on an index card and keep them.....soon the stack of index cards will grow and whenever you are feeling down re-read them...this is really effective and it will improve self confidence. I know it is nice to receive validation and compliments from other people..but you will never have self confidence until you learn to love yourself...nobody is perfect the media is all illusion check out this music video it might make you feel better
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take care
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Its tough...because I still do that to myself...people have told me that I'm pretty, beautiful, and what have you but for some reason I still pick at myself. I pick at myself more days then others its just a constant battle! No one is perfect and therefore people tend to pick out flaws instead of picking those out though we should try to embrace the good. I look at how lucky I am...and I try to be as kind to others...I try not to care about my looks as much as I can. There is no way for me to tell you how to stop picking at your flaws...but maybe by focusing on the good qualities it may take you away from the "flaws".
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if u know that you are pretty then you are
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i delt and sometimes still do after two children i feel ew. but i take time out each day to do my hair my makeup the way i like pick out clothing that you feel good in. You have to remember in your head alll the time who cares what people thing your something special and youll meet friends and find a guy whom likes you for that and not the flaws some guy and some friend will like your flaws one day.
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I dealt with the same thing for a long time and unfortunately it's a tricky thing to get advice about because loving who you are is something that each person really has to arrive at on their own. I know my problem in trying to accept myself was that I was trying to ignore what is flawed and embrace was is beautiful when I really should have been embracing what was not. Self esteem cannot be built out of accepting what is lovely but enjoying what is unique. If you can somehow find the ability to pick out your flaws and love that they're there (because they are what makes you different) and realize that each flaw is beautiful in it's own way your self esteem will rise. Like I said though, no one can tell you haw to accept yourself. They can't advise you to think better of your beauty. It's a lesson you have to learn on your own but if I hope that maybe I help some? Good luck.
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