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Enemies
15/f
What are good ways to detroy my enemy/make her jealous?
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use the power of words and wit not the power of physical contact and bleeding.
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Show her you know who you are and you will not change for her. let her know that you are happy with your life and the way things are and no one can make you change that. best way to 'destroy' an enemy is to be nice to them it irritates them and it shows that you never stoop to their level.
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don't let her know she bothers you.
act like your above her and her games.
know that you're better than her and act like you own the school(:
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Sometimes the best revenge is to do nothing at all. Once they see that you could care less about them, that'll irritate them more than actually wasting your energy on trying to "destroy" them.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
The best way to destroy an enemy is to make them a friend. I realize that at 15 years of age this is hard to understand.
As an example let’s say someone you are not too friendly with or is somewhat of a bully takes your hairbrush. If this was to happen in school, and for this example it did, you could go to a teacher or administrator and report her. This of course would make her even more or less than a friendly person to you and probably an enemy who wants to get back at you for the trouble she got into for taking your hairbrush.
You could look at this in a different way. The reason she took your hairbrush was she needed one and could not afford to buy one. The fact that she took yours rather than someone else’s was because she knew you would report her and this would give her a reason to make you an enemy rather than someone she just did not like.
In this situation you actually have two choices; you could report her or you could say something life the following to her. Kathy if you needed a hairbrush that badly I would have loaned you mine. But since you already have taken it keep it and I’ll buy a new one. When you say this to her make sure the two of you are alone so you do not embarrass her in front of her group of followers.
What you have done is called taking the wind out of her sails or defusing the situation. She will have no reason to make you her enemy as you did nothing to get her in trouble, plus you offered what is called an olive branch of friendship when you told her you would have loaned her your hairbrush. Had you gone the other route and reported her she would have had her reason to fight with you. You may have won the fight and would have to constantly watch your back as she would continue to find reason to fight you until she won or she and he followers could gang up on you.
Fighting solves absolutely nothing and only causes more hard feelings and more fighting. What I am saying is that you should never start a fight; you should walk away or work to defuse the situation. If attacked defend yourself to the point that you can get away and then report the attack to the proper authorities.
For the world to be a better place someone has to be the voice of reason; why should you not be that voice?
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