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I want to have a baby
I'm a 21 year old female and my husband and i got married a little while ago a year to be exact. i keep track of the money and were doing well so i asked if we could try for a baby. he said one day but i can't stop thinking about it. i see babies everywhere what can i do to convince him to have a child now?
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Don't.
My wife is your age and I'm a bit older. She feels exactly like you and I feel exactly like your husband.
Don't.
We're not at a stable enough point to have a kid so I have that argument on my side, but the truth is that I am not ready to be a father, to be that 24/7 role model. I'm not ready to stop living like a college student, get a mortgage, and act like full adults. I still like to go out with friends and act like an immature irresponsible 18 year old.
Get a pet. Get a hobby. Do something that takes your mind off it whenever you can. You do not want to convince him to have a kid, you want him to be ready.
Trust me when I say, if he's not ready, he won't budge. One person being ready to be a parent isn't enough. Talk to him and ask him what he thinks, try to figure him out. Don't try to convince him. You'll only set him further in stone in his answer.
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Oh my goodness honey, don't be in such a hurry. Seriously. You've only been married a year, you're only 21 - now is not the best time to have a baby! It's not the worst time either, granted, but you've got sooo much time to enjoy life, enjoy each other, get to know each other better, take classes, travel... you will NEVER have this kind of freedom and autonomy again. Don't throw it away!
That said, since you know you DO want a baby eventually, make sure you and your husband are on the same page about that. You could even discuss what year you want to start trying. Personally, I'd recommend being about 25 or 26 when you have your first, but that's just me.
So there's my two cents. But best of luck no matter what you and your husband decide!
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hey girl
ah im in the same situation lol. my husband doesnt want one right now either and its like you wish he did....
well unless it happens i really dont think he'll actually say he'll be ready unless its like years & years from now. men at our age have a lot of other things they want to do & other things they want to spend their money on. like for example, my husband is a car freak & says if we have a baby right now he wont be able to pursue his hobby as much because of the expenses a baby comes with. theres nothing we can really say to them that will convince them this early in life unless you have one now, a baby wont be on their minds.
but dont let yourself down, the baby will come when he/she is ready :) and take this time to enjoy not having a baby at the moment because, well, you know how difficult it will be once a baby is added into your life. so yeah hun do things with your husband, spend time with him, do different things. have fun while you can lol.
hope i helped! :)
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okay.. heres my advice t0 y0. d0nt tell him anym0re that y0u want t0 have a baby. just tell hym y0u want t0 have sex.. mabye while yall are d0ing s0 y0u will get pregnant.
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