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nothing to talk about
so there is this guy i just met and we have been talking on facebook but we never really have any conversations because there is nothing to talk about. we just say whats up and tell each other what were doing and then the conversation stops.
how do i get conversations going with him??
it's also kind of hard because i only met him once so there's not much to talk about and i don't know him too well.
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Hey, if your looking for conversation starters then here's a few..
music, movies, work. Everyone loves music and im sure everyone has seen a movie.
Talking about friends might improve the communication between you, if you live so close to one another then chances are that he probably knows some of the people that you do.
Stating that there is trouble talkin to each other is putting up a barrier on communication flow straight away.
Try not to think like this, if you like the guy then you will enjoy chatting to him and also enjoy listening to him too.
It's not so hard, just relax and say what you feel. Let it flow.
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ask hime where he live at wat he likes to do and try n tell some jokes or something
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next time hes online ask him if he wants to play a game called 21 questions.
You could talk about fave movies, travel ideas, fave sports.. anything.
It will help you get to know each other and make convo.
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Well firstly I'd advise you to meet with this guy more often, not on dates necessarily but with friends. It's weird but sometimes I can talk to people non-stop over facebook but in person I have nothing at all to say to them, and other times I can talk to people endlessly in person but on facebook i never say a word.
But anyway..
Try not to force conversation. This is when you pull out those one liners that follow "how are you.. how was your day" like "so do you have any pets... how many siblings do you have?" as these never last very long.
What I tend to do is bring out a bit of my personality when I talk to someone, usually through my sense of humour. I'm one of those people that thinks bad jokes are hilarious and love telling people them. If I'm having a jolting conversation with someone, I sometimes bring up a silly joke and we always end up laughing. One idea that always works is thinking up pick up lines, which usually starts off with "hey I have this great pick up line..." then you both start coming up with really cheesy ones and the conversation can move on from there.
I talk a lot so when I'm speaking to someone for the first time I tend to do more of the speaking at the beginning. If your like me then just start talking about anything, whether it be about your day or about yourself. This way whoever your talking to is learning more about you and they sort of become intrigued and want to know more (which keeps the conversation going).
If your absolutely stuck think of ANYTHING you have in common. If it's a mutual friend, talk about funny times with them. If it's school, talk about teachers or people.
One other thing I sometimes tend to do with people I hardly know is ask lots of questions. Sometimes people don't like it but with whoever I talk to it always seems to work. You can ask anything like "whats your favourite colour?.... if you were stuck on an island and could only bring 3 things what would they be?... if you had kids what would their names be?"
Once you've just started on any topic, you can move to another and have a lengthy conversation. If you have big pauses just start talking about anything else or ask a random question.
If your the opposite of me, then just express your personality in your own way.
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