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help? sisters boyfriend murderer?
im 16.f, and my sisters 18.f. She is now dating a guy who is 26, just got out of jail for drug possession and he was previously accused of murder, but there was "reasonable doubt" so they didnt convict him, and was kicked out of his house. He is a drug dealer without a real job..yet my mother lets him sleepover, EVEN THOUGH ive talked to her about it many times, nad told her he scares me and i cant sleep when hes here. I also hear them having sex at night and thats just disgusting. I really need help because i dont feel safe at night with him here. Please, i need some help. My dad doesnt live with us anymore, and ive tried talking to my sister and my mom but they dont listen to me.
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If you havent talked to your sister about it you should.But at the same time have an open mind about him.That was his past and every1 should get a second chance.He might have not murdered any1 and if he did it was porbly self defense just think of it that way.If you feel unsafe wen his their ask you mom if u can sleep over your friends house wenever he is there but try to get to know him a little better too
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What you can do is google a web site to search back ground checks kind of. you type in there first and last name and see if anything comes up about his arrests. do you have family that lives close grandparents, your father, etc. ask your mother if you can stay with them on the nights that he stays there since you dont like him and just talk to your mom and keep telling her how you feel make her listen to you.
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This sounds awful. Your mother is completely wrong here and her disregard for your feelings and your safety is astounding. Its obvious you're not going to get any help from your Mom (so sorry for that. That's her job!) so you're going to have to grow up a little faster than you should and make some decisions. First thing you need to do is come up with a list of options. What can you do to keep yourself safe in this situation? Can you stay with someone else temporarily? Dad? Relatives? Close friends? Can you talk to your Dad about this and see if he can talk some sense to your Mom? Can you talk to a school counsellor or trusted adult? You do have one last option. Its extreme and I recommend using it only as a last resort, but you can call Child Protection Services and tell them your situation. Keep in mind that if you do this it may result in you being removed to foster care, or your mother being put under investigation. If you do decide to call them, ask them if they can keep your call anonymous, that way no one has to know it was you that made the call. It could help you avoid trouble with your sister down the road. Whatever you decide to do, just know that the situation you are being forced to endure is dangerous. When your sister brings that man into your house, she also brings all his problems in as well. What if someone were to show up there looking for him someday, what if they had a gun? Your mother is allowing him to bring all of the danger and uncertainty that must follow him around every day into your house and it puts everyone in there at risk. Your intuition is telling you this is a dangerous situation, and you are wise to listen to it. So, take your own situation into your own hands and do your best to find a solution for yourself. If they want to wallow in their own misery and stupid decisions, I guess thats their business. No need to drag you into too, though. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. Find someone you trust, preferably a stable adult with a stable family, and maybe they can talk with you and give you some clarity on this situation. But its not fair you should have to deal with this on your own. Your mother sounds terribly selfish and unreasonable. You sound like the only sane one in that house. I hope everything works out for you.
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Wow thats a lot to live with well i think if you feel this uncomfortable to live there while hes there maybe you should find somewhere else to stay like maybe with your dad or a grandparent or other relatives just for the days hes at your house. Also maybe you should talk to your school counsellor and have him/her talk to your mom or sister about the whole situation.
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