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I have no friends
Ok so in high school I was never really a social person...I had like 3 close friends and then I would hang out with people but it would be through those 3 friends somehow...
Senior year there was some drama and I'm no longer friends with them. So I feel like I have noone anymore. I always see groups of girls out on girls night or they'll show up at parties together and I feel like I need something like that.
I've been out of school for a few years now, I took off time to work some...and now I'm starting community college next week.
I need some tips to make some friends in college....
What I can see being a problem is I don't have anything to invite people along to...like most people can say "hey me and my friend *** are gonna go out for coffee after class you wanna come along?" and I can't say that to try and meet people....
I don't really know how to go about it because those 3 really close friends I had I was friends with since middle school...I haven't made friends in a long time and I'm lost...
I know this seems stupid and I feel like a total loner asking this question....but I don't want to have nothing to do on saturday night but work anymore.
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A tactic that is good to use is try to find something in common with someone you see. If you're going to be in class with them, make casual concersation: "Wow this teacher is so boring.." "Why is there so much homework?!" but try slipping in some personal information into it. Like: "ugh! There's so much homework! I have to have time to take my new puppy Zeke for a walk." Thats will lead to a full conversation. Maybe not exactly that, but something that you think up that works for you. Most of all, try to make yourself seem approachable and even if you have to pretend or force yourself to talk to people thats ok. Eventually people will like you and maybe you'll make some friends.
PS: Sharing your interests in music is always a good way to tell a lot about a person. Maybe even bond over it. Good luck, and I wish you the best. Hopefully things will just fall into place for you.
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just be really friendly ...
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I'm in the same boat and I have the same problem, However in order to meet people you need to stop thinking in a negetive way as that will hold you back and keep you from meeting new people even more. I learned that if you want to make new friends just be yourself, Start off with small talk like "Hi, How are you" and smile. The same way you introduce yourself when you meet someone for the first time and gradually you will start a conversation and that is how you build friendship. If you don't have anything to invite them too well what you said above isn't a bad idea why not invite them to go out for a coffee? Say something along the lines like "Hey..I was wondering I'm about to go off and get a coffee would you like to come along" etc. If they turn it down don't worry just keep on trying.
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