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Okay....
So when I was younger I did every sport under the sun. But now I am a teenager (16/f) and I found my true passion a few years ago: theatre! In fact, I'm not a fan of playing sports at all anymore.
The only problem is that I really am not happy with my body. I want to feel better about myself as far as being in good shape. But I'm not a big fan of physically activity so I can't motivate myself. I went to the gym this past winter with my friend and we did a lot of running and such which I was proud of. But then my spring schedule got busy with theatre rehearsals and I couldn't go anymore.
Now that summer is over, I just looked some pictures of my friends and I at the beach. Of course I am in a bikini and even though I am not one of the biggest people there, I still wish I was in shape and a little more toned rather than flabby. Most people say that I am "normal" or "average" but I want to be in shape and toned.
Does anybody have some suggestions of how I can motivate myself to go to the gym? Eating healthy is a problem. I've got a busy theatre schedule and often need those frozen dinner kind of things when I'm on the go. I do have time to eat healthy, I'm just not motivated to do it even though I want it so sad. I've had self esteem issues for awhile, but I still just feel like no matter what I won't notice the results. (link)
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I know, I know. None ever wants to do physical activity. But if you want to get healthier you're going to have to do it. First you should make a plan that works best for what you want to do with your body that seems reasonable with your hectic schedule. If you have a gym membership and your friend wants to go with you, great! And when you don't feel like going, make a pact with your friend to make you go, no matter what you say. If you have the time, you should go. And if working out made you proud of yourself, don't you want that feeling again? And if you really really don't feel up to it, I was told to work out for 5 minutes and if you really really absolutely cannot go on, then stop. at least you know.
Also you can get your parents to help you out with the food issue. Talk to them about stocking up on healthy foods that are quick. And if frozen dinners doesnt do that for you, then dont buy them. Maybe your parents can pre prepare a good meal for you that you can just pop in the microwave and eat quick. If you/them aren't very good cooks, maybe you should practice and watch a few cooking shows or buy a good cookbook that helps you learn. And if you must do frozen dinners, don't they have like lean cuisine or whatever that isnt as bad for you and even sort of healthy? Idk. I would do your research and make a plan that works for you and STICK TO IT!! Good luck, i wish you the best.
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Ok so in high school I was never really a social person...I had like 3 close friends and then I would hang out with people but it would be through those 3 friends somehow...
Senior year there was some drama and I'm no longer friends with them. So I feel like I have noone anymore. I always see groups of girls out on girls night or they'll show up at parties together and I feel like I need something like that.
I've been out of school for a few years now, I took off time to work some...and now I'm starting community college next week.
I need some tips to make some friends in college....
What I can see being a problem is I don't have anything to invite people along to...like most people can say "hey me and my friend *** are gonna go out for coffee after class you wanna come along?" and I can't say that to try and meet people....
I don't really know how to go about it because those 3 really close friends I had I was friends with since middle school...I haven't made friends in a long time and I'm lost...
I know this seems stupid and I feel like a total loner asking this question....but I don't want to have nothing to do on saturday night but work anymore. (link)
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A tactic that is good to use is try to find something in common with someone you see. If you're going to be in class with them, make casual concersation: "Wow this teacher is so boring.." "Why is there so much homework?!" but try slipping in some personal information into it. Like: "ugh! There's so much homework! I have to have time to take my new puppy Zeke for a walk." Thats will lead to a full conversation. Maybe not exactly that, but something that you think up that works for you. Most of all, try to make yourself seem approachable and even if you have to pretend or force yourself to talk to people thats ok. Eventually people will like you and maybe you'll make some friends.
PS: Sharing your interests in music is always a good way to tell a lot about a person. Maybe even bond over it. Good luck, and I wish you the best. Hopefully things will just fall into place for you.
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like my friend gets all the guys.
i introduced her to a couple of my guy friends who i liked and i told her, and now they like her.
all the guys i know have had a crush on her sometime.
it makes me really depressed cuz shes my best friend, and gets everyone.
im never gunna find anyone who likes me!
ugh im so confused, i hate it.
please help.
thanks
maybe its cuz im not a very confident person. but i dont know. (link)
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I know what you mean. Not feeling like your as pretty or cool as your friends. It doesn't help that your friends are really outgoing and flirty and you're not. Thats SO me. But last year a guy friend asked me out out of NOWHERE and I was so surprised. I mean we ended up breaking up buts thats just because he wasnt a good boyfriend. But seriously, just keep your eyes open and keep a close relationship with your guy friends, and who knows one might surprise you. And believe in yourself. And also dont feel depressed because you dont have a boyfriend. its okay and not a big deal. and chances are someone does like you and there just not telling you just yet. good luck
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hey.
im 14 years old and i weigh around 140.
i cant stop eating. like all my friends are really skinny and then when it comes to me its called fat. i have been skinny for my whole life but not im gaining weight. im on birth control too but i use that for my acne and everybody has told me that Yaz helps you loose weight but my mom wont let me get it. i really want to loose weight. i have tried a diet but it only lasted for about 4 days. and i dont know what to do. we dont have excerise stores here so i cant do that. i really dont want to become any fatter. at school they already called me pregnant because imm getting a belly. what can i do.
HELPP!!
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ill give good feedback. (link)
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Listen, I'm around your age and at your age, I was about that weight maybe a few pounds more. YOU. ARE. NOT. FAT. It must be hard being around skinny girls all the time. I know what that feels like. But if you really want to try to become more fit and healthier this is what i would suggest. It might seem easy, but you have to commit to it or it will be hard and wont work.
So, first of all, make yourself eat breakfast. If its really early, set something out the night before thats healthy and filling that will curb your hunger. Something that you can cram in on the go. Things with lots of protein help make hunger go away zo you wont feel like you have to eat your whole house in the afternoon when you get home from school.
Next, every time you want junk food, think to yourself, 'Is this really doing my body any good?' and then dont eat it and eat something healthy instead. You dont really have to diet just eat things in moderation that are good for you. Every once in a while you can treat yourself to some chcolate or candy of whatever. :) You can also ask your parents not to buy junk food and more healthy food if the problem is that its in your house so you feel like you have to eat it.
Lately, I've been trying to incorperate running into my life. Running is a really good way to burn calories and the fat off your tummy. Also doing sit ups and that back and forth laying down "bike" thing really help. I do them before i get in the shower so if i sweat, i just wash it right off.
Lastly, you need to try to feel more confident about yourself. Everyones body shape is different and if its genetics theres nothing you can do about it except enjoy it and flaunt it. And seriously if your friends are calling you fat, you need some new friends. Friends should support you and comfort you on a bad day, not make it worse.
Oh, also, you can where flowy shirts for now that kind of hide your belly until you get it under control. And realistically it would take a few weeks maybe even a month before you see results. So, even tho it may be hard, STICK WITH IT! Good luck and i hope you take my advice into consideration.
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