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overcoming fear of being sexual
okay so i'm 19 and i will admit i'm a pretty horny 19 year old VIRGIN. the farthest i've been is making out and the last time i did it was like three years ago. it's not that i dont want to do sexual things with guys, its that i'm nervous. who isnt nervous their first time getting fingered, giving a hand job, getting felt up, etc. i think it's because i feel like i'm not comfortable with my body but i've realized that guys like boobs. its not abnormal, duh. girls are usuallly self- conscious about their body, right? i honestly wouldnt do somethinng with a guy if i didnt want to, but i WANT TO its just the point of actually getting there. yeah i know, if its a guy you love you shouldnt feel nervous but you dont know me! no matter how comfortable i am with someone, it still feels awkward. like okay your feeling me up as i sit here, cool? i overanalyze everything. how can i overcome this? i know that if i just do something once, i'll overcome this fear, but until then how can i get over it?
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Stop ovber analyzing everthing just start kissing and making out and he will feel u up pull him on top of u pull off his pants ans stuff pull of yours and bam itll happem and it will be amazing
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heres an answer you wont expect- DONT. thats right, dont get over it. wait for a man you love, your soulmate, and you will feel 100% comfortable around him automatically. trust me, i was the same
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you should just let a guy feel you up as much as he pleases, its obvious the guy likes it if he keeps going, and once you get used to it you like,and learn from the experianced.
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i kind of used to be the same way. it was all cause i was with the wrong guys. when i met my boyfriend he made me feel so comfortable and i knew i was ready for all that stuff.
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i had this problem to, your not alone! my boyfriend and i have been dating 9 months and i still dont feel comfortable 100% all the time because im self conscious to, but when you find a guy and you guys go out, you have to keep telling yourself he wouldn't be dating you if he didn't think you were good looking and well with my boyfriend he knew i was self conscious and he always reassured me that i was gorgeous so that helped a lot, and its taken along time for me to be like naked and comfortable in front of him, so its not just you and it does get easier the longer your with a guy
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Also try taking a hot bath with bubbles and use precautions and birth control and condoms and youll be fine hope this helps!
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I say it's best to just get it over with. Once you've pushed the boundaries of your comfort zone then things will get much easier and your awkwardness will go away.
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