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Would he want to date me... again?
Junior in high school to be. 16f.
I met this guy in eighth grade and we became really good friends. We had a couple classes together. Unfortunately, when he told me he liked me the summer after eighth grade (I had liked him the first half of eighth grade whereas he liked me the second half), nothing came to be out of it since this other guy liked me at the same time, and I didn't want to hurt the other guy since he was my friend, as well. Although I don't regret making the decision that I did, I definitely have strong feelings for him again after two years; maybe it's better now than two summers ago since recently, we've discovered that we have a lot in common, and we connect better than we have ever before. We've hung out a few times this summer with our mutual friends. I leaned on his shoulder as we lay watching the fireworks on July 4th, and held onto his arm during a movie we watched together. The most memorable time with him was a couple days ago when we watched another movie, and I held onto his arm, just as I had before. In return, he put his hand on my knee. Slowly, though, he reached for my hand and interlocked fingers with me (I read online that that's a signal that he wants to be serious with you), and kept and smiling the whole time. He has complimented me before and helped me with troubles with another recent past crush (the getting over the last guy resparked my interest in this guy), saying that normal guys don't pass up girls as funny, smart, and attractive as I am. My worry is that he wouldn't ask me out again and waste time, especially since that awkwardness a few years back. I'm not ready to tell him I like him just yet, though. What do you think of the situation? Do you think anything will come to be out of it, or am I wasting my time just like on my last crush? I feel like I'm making it pretty obvious I'm interested without being pushy or forward, but is there something that I'm doing wrong or should be doing more / less of?
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He's showing all the signs that he likes you. He might ask you out again and if he doesn't, ask him out. Take it slow, i think that aren't being pushy or forward. You're doing just fine. I hope everything works out. It should.
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Well, there are 2 major options you can go about to solve this problem:
1. Be blunt about it.
2. Be shy about it.
I highly suggest being blunt about it, and either asking him if he's into you too, or simply asking him out yourself. Guys like when girls show confidence, and there's no better way to show you're confident than walking up to a guy and asking him out!
Or, you can go the other route and be shy about it, possibly doing nothing to show him you're interested in him. Sometimes, people who use this method drop subtle hints such as smiling [which is common in girls and doesn't always show you're into a guy] or having a friend ask if he's into you [this only shows that you're too shy to do it yourself]. This option is really kind of stupid, and is used all too much...
As I always say:
Life is WAY too short to not take chances and risks once in a while. Why sit around wondering what could've been, what would've been and what should've been, when you can answer all of those questions and then some by being honest and telling a boy how you really feel about him?
-Laura (17-f)
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tell him!
you may regret it if you don't.
but whatever choice you choose.
all of this is fate!
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He is showing you that he has feelings for you in a gentlemanly way. He isnt being to pushy or forward which shows he respects you. Just like your unsure of how he feels, he may be unsure of how you feel so that could be why hes not actually saying anything. I think that you should definately take the next step. I dont know if you guys text or anything like that but if you do you could say something in a text that shows him that you like him or are thinking about him or just be more flirty. But dont let him slip away this time. This guy sounds like a keeper. Good Luck!
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From what you say it seems you're giving the signals of being interested in him and it seems like he's giving you signals as well. Ultimately, you're going to just have to tell him how you feel. If not now, soon. You can't just wait for him to make the move because he may be too afraid to or be wondering the same thing you are.
Tell him before it slips away.
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