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my dad. long haha
okay so my parents divorced when i was about two, and my mom has been married three times (none of them worked). and it's fine now me and my mom are best friends. my dad's been married once more and now has 4 kids.
I visit him every summer and Christmas to Louisiana, because i live in Florida with just me and my mom and little brother.Every time i come here for the summer it gets harder and harder to stay long and see my WHOLE family over in Louisiana, its all my cousins and grandparents and aunts and uncles over there. So every time I come to visit him i try to see him every time he takes off of work. But for some reason if i ask to go see my cousins or other family members him and my step mom come up with the answer "no" for absolutely no reason! Ive stood up for myself and told them i need to see my family. But it can never get through to them. Also i have an older brother that lives with my grandma, and he's a great kid the best influence and me and him are really great friends/siblings. never ever fight. but when i ask to go see a movie with him, or the mall, or just spend the day with him the answer is still no with a big fight ? don't understand it. and by the way i don't do anything bad, i know right from wrong. No smoking or anything like that. what should i say to them??? It doesn't make since (its mostly my step mom)
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ok first of all no one not even your dad or step mom can keep you away from your family. Have you talked to your real mom about this, im sure she could have a talk with your dad. And dont feel bad for getting into the fights with your step mom and dad. Your fighting for what is right. Hope i helped
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you might receive from others. My advice is more like what you might get if you asked a grandparent.
There are possibly two answers to your question, neither of them having anything to do with you and whether you are good, bad or indifferent. As the reasons have nothing to do with you and there is a corrective action you can take, which will most likely require your moms’ help in contacting your other family members; I see no reason in going in to them at this time. I do not see you or your mother being able to change things for you while you are at your step-mothers home so the best thing I see to do is grab the bull by the horn and fix things yourself.
Corrective action: I see no reason why you cannot go around your step-mother and contact your cousins, Aunts, Uncles and Grandparents yourself. You could arrange days to visit with them while you are with your father, before you go to your fathers, or if financially possible arrange for separate visits to visit with other members of your family. This is where your mothers help comes in. If you have not already discussed this situation with her then I suggest you do so now. I do not think it is uncommon for someone like yourself to want to get to know her extended family and I am sure your mom will understand as well. Then with moms help start contacting those family members you want to spend time with; I would suggest sending a letter or an email. Let them know that it is not your fault that you have not visited, they may not know this, and tell them that you would like to visit but it may have to be a separate visit. Then wait and see what their response is.
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hey there,
okay this is totally unfair and unaceptable!
nobdoy should be stopped from seeing their family!
since you have already talked to your dad and step mom i sugest maybe you tell your actual mom back in florida?(if you havnt already) tell her how upset this is making you and maybe she can talk to your dad because they actually cannot stop you,is it your dads family or your moms family in lousiana?
either way ask your mom to speak to him tell him its not fair.
if the family isnt in any way blood related to your step mom then as far as im concerned its really non of her business or not or place to stop you.
if none of this works i sugest the next time you go see you dad just go see your family anyway,whats the worst they can do?
they cant punish you for wanting to spend time with family thats ridiculous!
or ask your mom to come along with you if she wouldnt mind,and your little brother,and you can all visit them together that way your dad and step mom cant object?
i dont know what the circumstances are with your parents whether they talk or not so just making sugestions =]
hope it all works out for you and that i helped in anyway.
good luck
much <3
Jess [15/f]
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