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so i recently moved to australia from south africa, im asian though. lol. well, im single! i've been in aus. for about 5 months now, and back in south africa people would just jump to get to know me and possibly date me! what's happening.. i know it could probably because of different people, like here and back there.. but what can i do so people know im available and interested BUT not a whore that just wants to find boys to have sex with. im into serious long relationships and thats what im looking for.. im not exactly searching, i just want a guy to be there for me to talk to and be intimate with. the guys i know are so unbelievably immature!
and when i look around at public places, NO ONE is checking me out or anything. its kind of frustrating in a way. but yeah, what am i doing wrong? and how do i fix it? :(
thanks.
oh btw, i cant go clubbing because im underage!
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Welcome to Culture Shock. South Africa is like 98% either White or Black. Asians are pretty rare in general, and rare means special in pretty much every culture in the world.
Somewhere like Australia is a bit more of a melting pot. People are used to a greater variety of other people, so its alot harder to be starkly different than everyone around you from 50 yards away.
You're going to have to learn how to flirt. You come off (just from what I've read) as someone who's not used to initiating flirting and someone who's probably got a fairly strong shy side.
The immature thing... honestly that's a bit of a culture difference too. You think Australia's bad? Be 17 in America, you'd go bat shit insane with how bad our kids are right now (on average).
Western culture is an odd paradox of wanting to remain a kid forever yet wanting to grow up and be an adult by 13. This paradox is mass marketed to our youth from every direction, including though the irresponsibly overprotective parenting culture we're developing.
First, get out and talk to more people. If you see a guy you like, walk up and see if you can hold a conversation. The desire for intimacy means that rather than that first look, its going to be that first conversation that sets you on fire. Go looking for that, and when you find it be open and eager for more.
Second, make alot of eye contact, and smile a ton. Eye contact expresses interest and self confidence. Smiles are positive feedback. When you're talking to a guy, meet his eyes and smile at him when he looks back at you. Even if he's oblivious or shy, it can help give him the courage to carry on.
Third, relax. Theres nothing wrong with you, you just have to understand that different places in the world work very differently. People have different values and different concepts of "normal"
I live in Texas, at the moment. I'm sure everyone from another country has heard of Texas. Its funny, I have zero accent, but I can fake a bad one. People from Texas think I sound terrible, people from other places in the country think I sound quaint, and girls from other countries think that a Texan accent is hot. Its hilarious.
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