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Okay my boyfriend is not supportive.
Okay, I am 15/pregnant and I told my boyfriend that stress can cause a misscarriage and he still fights with me all the time. And I ask him what if the baby is with me (since we dont live together) and he says his first word and my boyfriend says, well i mean oh well im not going to be upset,it doesnt really matter. And then I finally see what my baby looks like (like a picture on the internet) and I tell him that the baby now has a head but no arms or legs yet and he says "ew thats nasty". I mean it's like he doesnt even care about me or the baby. What do I do?
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Never stay with someone because you have a baby with them. He obviously seems like he is going to be a dead beat. Either break it off and give your baby up for adoption or break it off and move on with your life,
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Break up with him, and when you're done with your pregnancy, give the baby up for adoption. He's immature which is kind of expected if he's a teenager.
And you are too young to be having sex, let alone get pregnant. Find a family who needs the baby. You are in no way able to take care of a child because you're still a baby yourself.
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Your boyfriend is not going to be the supportive father you'd think he should be. He's a teenager (hopefully) and will act as such. A child is not the most anticipated part of his life yet and I severely doubt that he'll be any use to you during or after your pregnancy. My best suggestion is to put the child up for adoption after you deliver him or her since as a fifteen year old girl you are not the most well suited person for the job of raising a child.
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Im sorry hunny but 15 is young and he probably isnt ready for a baby. The best years of his life are ahead of him and now your telling him that you have a child. I bet that he is freaked out, and in his mind he knows that he should be there for you and for the baby, but he knows that it will ruin everything.
Talk to him and ask him how he feels. Ask him if he wants to be in your childs life or not. and if he does tell him its a full time thing, not something he can just brush to the side when he decides he doesnt want a kid anymore.
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Is your boyfriend also fifteen?
Because all he is doing is behaving like a fifteen year old boy. Just because he can impregnate you, doesn't magically turn him into an adult. He is STILL a teenager, and prone to all those obnoxious and self absorbed things that teenagers are prone to doing.
He probably does 'CARE' but that doesn't mean he has the slightest idea how to behave appropraitely or maturely. Just because he 'cares' doesn't mean he's going to be 'helpful'.
Don’t look to him for support.
He can barely take care of himself and it seems like the two of you can’t communicate in respectful or helpful ways right now. So look to adults in your life for support and help. Join a group for teenage mothers (it’s never too early! Think of what valuable advice other teens with newborns or toddlers can offer you!) and make new friends who have an idea what you are going through. Connect with adults around you who will support you.
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