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me and my friend like the same guy
me and my friend both like the same guy.... she dosnt know i like him but i know she i like him. she always talks about how much she think she loves him. me and him have been going out secretly. she just thinks we're friends. she told me scince we're such good friends if i could ask him out for her. i dont want to hurt her feeling, i feel guilty i'm dating her crush. she's been my bffl ever scince i knew her,and he said he likes both of us..... what should i do?
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You can either take one for your friend and give him up. Since you say that you have been friends for so long, I think you should. If you feel compelled to stay with him then you need to sit down and talk to her. If he is willing too then see if they want to go on a compatibility date. To see if they really work together. If they do then you have a choice to make. You need to follow your heart!
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There's a lot of lies in this whole web between you, the guy, and your best friend. Your going to have to tell her soon, or she might find out from another person! Sit her down, and explain EVERYTHING, in the nicest way you can. She will be hurt, but who wouldn't. If you found out your best friend was dating your crush, you'd be pretty hurt to. She may feel betrayed or lied to, so be ready, don't get angry with her for getting mad at you. It's just a complicated situation, but everything needs to come out. And for this guy, he needs to make up his mind. If he is "secretly" dating you, he shouldn't be having his eyes on anyone else. Hope i helped(:
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This dude is playing both of you. I would never date a guy that admitted to me that he likes my best friend too. You're setting yourself up to really get hurt by him. He's already admitted that he likes your best friend. She likes him. What is going to stop him from cheating on you with her? She doesn't even know you guys are dating, so that wouldn't stop her from hooking up with him.
You should feel guilty for dating your best friend's crush. She told you first that she liked him, then you started dating him. If you're a real friend, you'll tell her what's up.
Tell her that you've been dating him and that he has told you that he likes both of you. And, if you don't want to get hurt by this guy, you should end your relationship now. You're pretty much give him the O.K. to like your best friend, which doesn't make for a good relationship builder at all.
Darby
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ok first of all if he is dating you and tells you that he likes both of you that sounds kind of bad to me it doesn't sound like a good relationship so i would break up with him and let your friend date him, and since he said he likes both of you then he probley isn't that good of a guy anyways so i say move on or your just going to get hurt.
hope i helped
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The first thing-He said he likes both of you. He is playing you. If this guy isn't serious enough to at least say he likes you and only you, he certainly isn't worth hurting your friend over.
Second- I'm not saying you should tell your friend, or not-that decision is up to you, but keep in mind the longer this goes on, the more trust you are going to lose. She will think back to all of the things she told you about him and feel like you totally walked all over her.
Third- This is a situation you are going to face for the rest of your life. Women always get kind of caught up in eachother's relationships, you know, you watch your friends boyfriend be so sweet to her and you start wishing you had a guy like that. Or your situation, here you are, listening to your friend gush all of this great stuff about the guy, you can't help but start to notice.
Technically, right now, it isn't like you are stealing her man because they are not together, so you shouldn't feel too bad, but it sounds like it is really bothering you.
Here is the big question. Why are you not telling your friend what is going on? Is it because he doesn't want her to know, or you don't want her to know? The fact that he told you he likes you both should be a huge red flag. You should do some soul searching and figure out what it is you really like about him, and if it turns out you are just the competitive type, like almost every other girl in the world, break it off. If you tell him you don't want to see him like that any more because you care about your friend it will accomplish two things. First, it will put you over the top for the girl he really likes-guys always want what they can't have. And it will let him know it is impossible to play you-you are way too good for that.
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Okay this is always a tough situation to be in.
what you need to ask yourself is who is more important to you?
would you wanna totally destroy a your friendship for the sake of going out with this one guy for a couple of motnhs?
is it worth it?
in my opinion i think you are both better off staying clear of this guy because he is only gonna come between you two. i know you both might really like him but trust me plenty more will come along and your not always gonna like the same guys.
its your choice but if you truely think this guy is worth all the hassle..then you should talk to your friend and try explain to her that you didnt set out to hurt her feelings and that it just happend.
good luck with whatever you do hope it all works out =]
<3 jess.
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