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My friend think she is pregnant...
So my friend thinks shes pregnant..
If she is.. she needs to get an abortion..
how much is that? and is there any other way of "killing" it
without like going to the doc for an abortion?
i feel so bad :[
there is no way.. like she cant keep the baby
its gonna ruin her life and her boyfriends life.
like seriously her parents will kick her out and his parents will kick my out too..
and she cant get planB because she has 0 money :[
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It saddens me that all you're getting out of this question is moral outrage, rather than answers.
First off, is your friend really pregnant? How long has it been since she had sex? Has she taken a home test and a blood test?
If she had sex within the last couple of days, she can take Plan B, and it's a lot cheaper than an abortion. It costs about $35 where I live, and you don't need a prescription for it.
If it has been longer than that, she needs to take a test and make sure. If she is, she has a few options.
First option is to keep it. If she isn't ready for parenthood, she isn't ready. So there goes that one.
Adoption is a second option. She could carry the child to term and then give it up. That's a very hard decision to make.
Abortion is not an easy fix. You end up with mental scars afterward that may fade, but never go away. However, in my personal opinion, it is better to not bring a life into being that isn't wanted, and doesn't have a place. People may say that it's a little person, but development of senses like hearing only occur in the second trimester. For a great deal of the first trimester, the fetus (it is not a baby at this point) starts as a blob of cells and ends at about 3.5 inches in length. It is not a person, just like a fertilized egg is not a chicken. However, this is only my opinion. I have no religious ideals to hold to.
Depending on where you live, (I'm assuming United States, though) abortions can be covered by health care, but if not, will range in the first trimester between 275 to 700. It is expensive, but raising a child is much more so. So is prenatal care, because there's no excuse for not taking care of your fetus just because you're giving it up.
The thing I'm shocked about not hearing so far from other Advicenators: Tell her to NEVER take any advice on how to self-abort. Tons of women die every year because they try to do it themselves. If a legal, medical abortion is not an option, then your friend will have to carry to term and give it up for adoption. No other alternatives here.
Your friend made a grown-up decision when she chose to have sex, and she's going to have to make one now to deal with the grown-up consequences of sex.
Best of luck.
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Why didn't she think of pregnancy before she decided to have sex? I try not to judge but I hate abortion. What is wrong with adoption? I will take it! She will only have to put up with it for nine months. Killing is never an option. Twenty years from now she may wake up in the middle of the night crying because she had killed her first gift from God. If you are old enough to have sex, you are old enough to have kids. Abortion can ruin her chances of ever having children again. Does she really want to chance it? Besides, if her parents would kick her out because she made one mistake then they aren't needed anyway. I am sure that she could find somewhere else to stay.
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Case in point, abortion WRONG! Having a baby will NOT end their lives. Honestly if they were unresponible enough to have unprotected sex. Then they need too deal with the problems that follow. This is a life your are talking about. This is like going out and killing someone in public in daylight. Sounds like her and her boyfriend need to get a jobs and save up enough money BEFORE they tell there parents and then they will have enough money to move out and have their own place. It won't be easy but it WILL be worth it in the end. Or she can also talk to her parents about adobtion. They may accept that as an answer.
Good Luck!!
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hello, i am not going to argue with the other advice columnist, i am just going to give an opnion on what she should do,
abortion is bad because the baby is alive before they kill it, the baby won't ruin anyone's life because she can actually have the baby and give it up for adoptions, couples who are wanting a baby and can't search for one pregnant teen who just can't handle it, or is afraid of the parents. if you saw the movie juno it is just like that she won't even have to visit the baby she'll give it to a family who will take care of it.
okay if your friend really wants this abortion here is a website with the cost and other info that she may want to know.
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hopefully she hasn't killed it or gave birth yet for my advice. i really hoped i helped you
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Look i think abortions are really wrong, i am 17 and have a baby before when i first found out i was pregnant i was looking up abortions and how they kill them and let me say it was truely sad i couldnt believe how people could do things like that to an inosent baby, ill give you a website that tells how they kill babies before birth and its sad, so after i read that suff i totally changed my mind so i have my sweet beautiful baby boy and iam as happy as can be im still in school i have a sitter watching him and my life is not ruined and when people have abortions they feel very bad after they get this depression that is called postpartum depression kinda like what Brittany Spears had when she shaved her head and it is horable i had it after i had my baby and it made me wanna go crazy but thankfully i didnt, but there are other options to she could always give the baby up for adoption if she explained that to her parents im sure if she brought that subject up they would understand but it is a total blessing to have a baby in my life i couldnt be happier and i will be going to college even when i have a baby nothing is impossible, she could have a baby and still do what she wants to. but here is the website on abortions below
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