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how do i get my 7 yr. old son to stop spitting at school
My son has had an issue of spitting at people and has gotten into trouble twice in the past three days. They have taken away recess and at home his dad and i have tried punishing him but it has continued. What should we do?
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It may just be a coping skill. When my son wanted people to leave him alone, he would spit at them.
We found this out by hiding in our car at recess and watching his interaction with the other kids. He was being bullied, and instead of hitting people he spit at people.
Talk through what was happening during the incident. How he was feeling (scared, mad, upset, hurt, etc.) Hopefully if you GIVE him an alternative acceptable action, instead of just taking away an unacceptable action, he will quit the spitting.
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There needs to be understanding.
Some children do unexplainable things because of impulses they have that they can neither recognize or control. To be honest, this is a pretty severe clue towards something like ADD, you might want to look into that.
Get him talking. Take the anger out of it and seek to understand. He's 7, so its going to be hard to get him to take a look at himself, but if you approach it from an angle where you aren't angry, and you just want to know what he's thinking, he might be able to think back and figure out why he's doing it. Keep the frustration out of your tone when you talk to him and explain to him that you want to know whats going on inside his head, what he's thinking.
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You need to sit down with him and have a serious talk with him about how disrespectful and rude it is to do that. Properly punish him though. And when he sits down to have that serious talk, ask him why he spits at people, why he chooses spitting. Try to find an alternative to this. For example: if its because of anger, influence talking to the teacher, or buy him a little stress ball.
Good luck, let me know how this works out for you, and if it continues, tell me and I will try to give you some more advice :-)
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have you tried talking to him? there may be a reason behind it. Is he spitting at the same people/person? perhaps there is a hidden reason for him to being doing such things.
I think if you talk to him in a mature way and explain to him that it's wrong it may sink in a little. Ask him if he would like other people to spit on him. Ask how it would make him feel?
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hopefully this was of some help...
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